Whether they're texting us pictures of their thermometers when they're sick, or buying us flowers "just because," the men in our lives need to be noticed. Here, our panel of husbands confess the peculiar things they do to entice their wives. By Brie Schwartz, REDBOOK.
1. He acts like a clown
Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever, believes that in order to get attention from their wives, men need to do something slightly wacky. "Getting into bed with a tuxedo on, or roller skating through the house serving her dinner can generate a good laugh and reduce tensions," he says. "People have set ideas of how things happen from day to day, and whenever a routine changes, you end up on high-alert for danger. When you partner realizes there's no danger at all, the flush of adrenaline gets channeled toward gleefulness about you relationship."
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2. He wears your "favorites"
"Though I'm more of a soap and water kind of guy, whenever I take my wife on a date, I wear the cologne she bought me," says Brandon Heller, 32. "The smell always gets her attention. I'll also put on a shirt she got me - even if it's pastel."
3. He flexes his ego
"When my wife and I are at the gym together, I ask her to spot me while on the bench press," says Geoff Gringas of Miami. "I like to give her a a close-up view while I'm doing a bit of showing off and it keeps her eyes off of all the other sweaty guys." Why does it work? Dr. Jeremy Nicholson, the "Attraction Doctor," says that competing with other men - especially at the gym - is a key way that gents can stand out. "The man who dominates other men often gets the attention of women. So, guys push, shove, and fight when ladies are around. They also compete hard at everything from small games to sports. This shows the guy can handle himself, win resources and status from other men, and protect a woman." It may be a little old-fashioned, but hey, it's the truth.
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4. He learns what works for you
"Usually men start by resorting to things that don't work to get attention, but that would work great for them in reverse," says Dr. Haltzman. "For instance, if a woman were to strip off all her clothes and prance across the room, a man would definitely tune in. Men catch on sooner or later that this won't work in reverse because women are not simply looking for hot bodies, but to connect in meaningful ways."
5. He pretends not to know you
"My wife and I have been married for six years, which isn't a lifetime, but we like to spice things up," says Matt Frances, 32. "Every so often, when we go to a bar, I approach her as if we've never met and try to pick her up. We have this really fun fantasy night. Sometimes we even use accents. Creating stories together and being able to laugh helps to remind her how much fun we had when we first started dating."
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6. He teases you about the movies he loves
"Every time my wife and I watch schmaltzy movies together, I make exaggerated fake crying noises during the really sappy or upsetting parts and poke fun at her for actually crying," says New Yorker Steve Schwartz. "The first time we watched Love Story together I turned to her and asked, 'is this girl dead yet?' My wife thinks I'm insensitive, but really, pretending to be macho is the only way I can fight off my own tears during those gut-wrenching moments. Love Story is so sad!"
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