CosmopolitanWanna feel sexier right now? These moves will help amp up your confidence.
By Anita Alma
1. Sound Effects
Moaning, groaning, and other signs of pleasure can make you both feel like rock stars, so the more enthusiastic the chatter, the better. Sheri Meyers, therapist and author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship suggests recording a sex session and playing it as background music next time you make love. Try This: Call him on his cell at work and play a minute or two of your last session to jump start your night.
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2. Unleash Your Inner Rebel
Sex in a public place, bondage or blindfolds, will bring a whole new dimension to your love making. "The dirtier or scarier, the better," promises Meyers. "Experimenting sexually and giving your inner vixen free reign helps you to know and accept yourself, your body, and your partner in new ways." Try This: If you've been dreaming about a Fifty Shades of Grey-inspired sexual experience, make that fantasy a reality. One night, surprise him with a pair of handcuffs or a sensual spanking. If you both love the experience, it could open up a whole new world for you in the bedroom.
3. Clothes Minded
You don't have to be a Victoria's Secret model to pull off a jaw-dropping look. Wear something you love, like a lace cami with silk pajama bottoms or a cotton nighty. But don't stop there! "Put your hair up, go bare down there, do a smoky eye-whatever gets you in the mood to feel seductive," advises Babeland sex boutique co-founder Claire Cavanah. Try This: If you usually wear dark colors, try fire-engine red, or wear edible panties under your sweats. Picking out looks you know he'll want to rip off is empowering.
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4. Naughty Thoughts
Getting in the mood isn't like turning on a light switch. "For women, there is a period of adjustment going from daytime warrior to sexy goddess," says Meyers. Simply saying "Yes! I want it!" helps start the party. Tune out distractions and think about all the things you want your man to do to you. "When your mind gets turned on, your body will follow," adds Meyers. Try This: Think of a sexual fantasy and play it out in your mind. Imagine what you would like to do and want to have done to you.
5. Act the Part
If you are the shy side with a strict "lights off" policy, perhaps a little role play can transform you into a tigress between the sheets. Try This: Plan to meet your man at a bar but act like strangers. Take on the persona of the sexy seductress: call the shots, make him do whatever you want him to do. Don't break character. The more you do this, the less it will feel like a character and more like the new, confident you.
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6. Take Charge
If you usually wait for your lover to make the first move, switch things up and take the lead. Whisper "I want you" as soon as he walks into the room. "It will make him feel cherished, manly, and loved and will give you a sense of empowerment and newfound pleasure," says Meyers. Try This: Wear something new or nothing at all! "Approach sex as an adventure," suggests Meyers. "It's the perfect opportunity to discover a new position, kiss in a new way, touch a place that has never been touched or feel a novel sensation that will bring a sense of passion to old sex."