Half of marriages end in divorce. We've all been told that for years.
That's a pretty hefty number to swallow. But before many couples throw in the towel, they decide to try a marital separation, in the hopes that spending some time apart will bring them back together.
While separating can be a really good thing, it's a very difficult place to be emotionally. Here are some tips for surviving marital separation.
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Be kind - or at least respectful - to one another. When emotions run high, it's very easy to lob hurtful statements at each other, but if you're trying to decide to stay or go, being kind is a big deal.
Take all the time you need. Knowing that you're on the verge of divorce is a scary point to reach, so don't rush into a decision one way or another. Time can heal wounds, time remind of us of the bad times - as well as the good - so don't feel pressured to make up or break up until you've had a good long while to think about it.
Likewise, don't pressure your partner into making a decision just because you can't stand not to know. Just like you, your partner has to spend some time alone, discovering who he or she really is.
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Be alone for awhile. Don't go running into someone else's arms - even if it's a way to make yourself feel better. More than likely, your emotions will go haywire and you'll have a terrible time trying to sort through your real feelings. You've got to be on your own for a bit.
Try to understand the balance between dependence and independence. Being independent while still dependent upon each other is important for a marriage, and both partners should be free to be themselves. See if the balance between the two - dependence and independence - is something you're having trouble maintaining.
Lean on your friends and family during this emotional time. It may be your natural inclination to keep it all to yourself, but a marriage separation is a burden too hard to carry alone. So tell people you're struggling, and how they can help. People DO want to help.
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Keep the kids out of it. Until your kids are old enough to understand what's going on between Mom and Dad, don't drag them into it - hard as it may be. Just keep reassuring them that you and your partner love them no matter what.
What other tips do you have for surviving marital separation?
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