When love's already in the air, it's hard to resist the allure of a tuxedo-clad groomsman (or the groom's funny frat brother, or the bride's painfully shy, but totally beautiful cousin). But there are some rules to follow for hooking up at (or right after) a wedding.
Believe me: Brides want you to have fun at their weddings-I know I strategically placed my single friends with other guests they'd like (and my matchmaking skills came thisclose to working)! Here are some guidelines for closing a deal at a wedding.
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1. Skip the Spanx. Yes, you wear these to look good in the first place, but if you know the odds of a hookup are high (say, you already hit it off with the groom's co-worker at the engagement party), lay off anything that's hard to take off, like Spanx. Also no-no's: fashion tape and bandages so your nips don't pop up. (And if you're not sure, here's what you should wear to a wedding.)
2. Bring protection. Lipstick? Check. Tissues? Check. Condom? Don't forget that last one. There are few things worse than deciding you want to do the deed and realizing once you're hot and bothered that it wouldn't be safe to.
3. Lay the groundwork from the get-go. Spy a cute guest at the ceremony? If you can make eye contact with him and shoot a flirty smile his way (without disrupting the ceremony, of course), go for it. When it's over, tell him you hope to see him on the dance floor at the reception. But don't make yourself too available: He shouldn't know what hotel you're staying at before you've exchanged names.
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4. Choose the right venue. Despite the comfy couch and soft lighting, the bridal suite is not a spot for a mid-wedding meetup. (There's a reason it's called the bridal suite.) Others' hotel rooms are also off-limits. True story: A friend of a friend got it on with a groomsman in the father-of-the-bride's room. The dad swung by during their hookup (he needed his insulin!), and when his room key wouldn't work, the hotel staff had to intervene. Needless to say, he got quite the view once he got into his room. So where can you go? The ceremony gazebo-after the ceremony-is fair game (as long as it's far enough away from the action of the reception).
5. Stay away from anyone who's too close to the bride.The bride's big bro sure is cute, but the lady in white might turn green with envy if her own brother's ignoring her to pursue you. If you're gonna go there, at least wait until the bride is too tired to care (around the cake-cutting is a good time).
6. Don't neglect your bridesmaid duties for a hookup. I'm not saying you should forgo flirting just because you're wearing the same dress as five other girls (the list of bridesmaid gripes is long enough!) Still, if you've got a job to do-whether it's as big as giving a toast or as small (and annoying) as manning the guest book table-do it. You can always get to know a fellow guest after the wedding (make sure your phone's nearby and fully charged so you can save his number).
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7. Have a get-home plan in place. I think what stopped my two friends from, uh, connecting, was that the girl wouldn't have a ride back home if she stayed at my guy friend's hotel room. So know your public transportation options, have enough money for a cab, or make a deal with a friend to pick you up the next day (and offer the same to her) in case either of you are in a position to get lucky.
Have you ever hooked up at a wedding? Ever witnessed a truly disastrous one?
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