Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, Do all (okay, most) guys -- gay or straight -- like their bumholes played with? Just external or penetration (with a finger or more)?
Straight Single Guy (Colin): Isn't there a great Sex and the City episode that decided we like it, we just don't want to talk about it? In reality you're going to have to ask each guy before you dive in. We can't generalize here. External play might be fine in most cases as long as you're stimulating his penis. But full-on penetration can quickly change the picture. For first-timers a finger inside can feel really different but if he's up for exploring why not give it a go? Some (immature) guys think it makes them gay and will have decided beforehand never to try it out. Others may experiment and decide it's not for them. And then there's always those who go crazy for it (like my friend who described his prostate orgasm as such: "It's like coming in slow motion").
Gay Committed Guy (Bill): I think everyone should try to stick a pinky in their bum bum at least once. Straight guys tend to be scared of this because they fear it might make them gay, but to heck with that: it's just another hole in our body that happens to be sensitive. That's not to say that once a person gets over their hangups about it being gay or dirty or whatever that they won't decide it's not for them. Gay guys, like all human beings, are all different: some are always tops, some are always bottoms and some like to mix it up, some prefer only to give it, some prefer only to receive it and some like both. So I think it's worth trying once (both giving and receiving) so you can say unequivocally: I definitely did/did not like that.
Our "guys" are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week's Straight Single Guy is our former uber-intern, Colin Adamo, and our Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles -- check out his new website, AdultParlorGames.com.
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