Affairs are they really good for your marriage/relationship? Dr.Duffus seems to think so

I don't think it would work out for a high persentage of people with morals. On the other hand, what is this world comming to?

this funny that you speack of this i am going through it right now my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years we live together and i have just caught him on he internet with some girl that i went to high school with.... I can tell you right now this is not good for our relationship I am having a really hard time with this.. He says hes sorry but i think he is only sorry he was gotten caught!!! I love him but S**t what are you supposed to do when u live together? This so called doctor is crazy maybe he should go see a real doctor and figure out what his problem is.. I would never suggest cheating to anyone if you are that unhappy then get out of the realtionship. all its gonna do is hurt the other person and make life suck for a good while then the person cheated on will only have trust problems for a good while!!!! Take it from experience i know!!!!

I feel that an affair can be good for both partners b/c it allows them time to see how much they relly love each other. I was in a relationship for three years and we both had an affair and it help us grow closer together.

Lisa, Im glad that worked out for your daughter if that's what she wanted. As for random breeding; I would imagine the term multiple partners during the life-course is better suited for this era. As for morality; that's another topic which can be discussed at length. Of course I recommend "Who's Morality?" be the starting line for that discussion... goodnight ;)

LoL right! Affairs are the worst thing you can do in a relationship. If you really wana spice things up... agree with your partner to have a three-some. Its mutual, its spice, its fun. No strings just pleasure. And belive me the man will just die when you ask to bring another girl into the bed once in a while.

Speaking from experience haha!
But yes... affairs are bad... that guy is trippin!

I dont want to have affair, I asked my other if we could spilt but before this would happen, but he will not leave. see we have been togather for 11 years and we dont have sex anymore...and I really like sex and would like more but it does not happen doing ur self all the time does not help when there is lots of guys that would love to take me. see he cant get it up no more... what sould I do? I will dont want to hurt him, but would love to just have sex again.....

cheating, like betraying is terrible. Only those who experience hurt feeling can really feel it. It could kill, I mean it. I almost die because of it. I'm still dying now. Hell for all betrayers.

Dr. Duff must be screwing all his patients literally.

Kirsten, I had an affair with a married woman whom I love dearly and she chose to go back to her 20 yr non-love relationship because he blackmailed her with the kids after about 9 months. He knew we had reconected but he believed her when she told him it was just email stuff at about 2 months(and over) and long before the most personal things happened. When she said she'd stay she never told him the truth. So essentially for her she had a better relationship because even as pathetic as his efforts have been (she told me)he is at least trying which he never did before he found out about me. I feel good about the fact that he has sobered up and is a somewhat functional father now but I feel guilty that he doesn't have any idea about how far we went. And because she said he still isn't being what she truly needs, I have wished I could call him and tell him what to do to make her happy. I am so sorry for what has happened and I can't think of how an affair can make a real marriage better. If it can't work just cut it off and find somebody when the time and situation are right.

i have had an affair and i really like it if two people have a open mind its a good things can come out of it

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Why cheat? All it does is make the situation worse. Work it out or go on with your life.

WTF ....LOL....IF MEN DIDNT CHEAT ID BE A BROKE BITCH!!!!

ya know i have heard alot of things in my life but cheat on your spouse takes the cake . it does nothing but cause jealousy, hurt pain and lots of tears ,because then your trust is broken and every time theone spouse leaves the other you wonder is he /she with another he/she is cheating on . my gosh ; whatever happen to love honor till death do you part ? not to mention all the wedding values between a husband and wife geeeeeeeeeee . just stay singleand you wont have to worry about home wreckers. in deed some people are dogs, i tell ya they would not be happy with a gold they would still have to have more .true love is only when each heart becomes one my opionion just like bh every one has one

sex is for married people that is GODS commanment

Cheating hurts everyone . I know, I cheated and i've been cheated on, either way the pain that comes along with it is not wort it. Be true to yourself and the one you love .Life is better that way.

Marriage is a sacred bond between a man and a women , too bad lots of people think its disposable. A relationship is a gift that 2 people give each other a love that is suposed to last forever . Loving someone takes comitment and responsibility, you have to sacrifice some of yourself to your partner for it to work. part of marriage is being honest and faithful to each other . people need to stop and think of the vows they take when the get married. Yes my husband had several affair during our 18 yrs of marriage when I finally found out her husband called me and told me. I was hurt and could not trust him any more. So 2 familys were destroyed she had 2 children I have 3 after 2 divorces hers and mine you tell me what was good about that .

I agree with Evangeline! There is this sales tactic that get used all the time that most people don't realize even exists. Simply put it is this ~ #1 Cause a problem #2 Make sure everbody realizes this problem exists and how serious it is. Then finally #3 Come up with the solution to fix that problem. Of course no one can realize that you are the one that actually started the problem to begin with or even if they do, you just have to wait long enough to let people forget that you did. It sounds crazy but it is the most effective tactic I have ever seen used and it's used all the time. You just have to look for it.

HEY,,,,IF A MAN HAVE AN AFFAIR AND HIS WIFE FIND A NUMBER AND HE DENY IT ,,,THE RELATIONSHIP CAN BE DAMAGED.THE MARRIAGE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN. SHE WILL ALWAYS THINK SOMETHING IS GOING ON. SO WHY CHEAT? NO CHEATING IS WRONG IN ANY CASE.

what happened to the marriage vow forsaking all others. my god just be truthful if you want out . i know my husband and i are seperated because of his thinking the grass is greener on the other side.affairs do nothing but destroy the self esteem of the innocent victim