Are You A Boring Date?

... atleast she should of put a smile or compliment or something she is borring.

the girl started out with issues, if someone has my spare key I'd be heading there not spending the night on someone else couch, but then that's me. The fact that you even cared about not wanting to be boring speaks volumes. Most guys I know would be dumping it all on her. So hey your ahead of the game. Just have to find someone that you don't have to work so hard with.

the girl started out with issues, if someone has my spare key I'd be heading there not spending the night on someone else couch, but then that's me. The fact that you even cared about not wanting to be boring speaks volumes. Most guys I know would be dumping it all on her. So hey your ahead of the game. Just have to find someone that you don't have to work so hard with.

Oh brother. I thought you were writing about how boring your date was not how boring you perceived yourself to be. Sounds like she was the dud. You showed up and brought your A game. That being said, nine innings is a terribly long time to sit. MLB is for the committed. Perhaps go for an NBA game next time.

You are wonderful Rich. You had a bad date because of the very reasons in your story. Sometimes people just cant let go of whatever issues they are wrapped up in and it looks from the outside like your date was having a miserable day/s trying to catch up on sleep and house keys. You were not to blame. Baseball games are great when you are well rested but I know from having many times gone with little to no sleep that the moment you plant your behind in a seat when your that tired you might just curl up and fall asleep right on the spot. The fact that she hugged you was a good sign. She knows you were trying to make her happy when she was probably crying inside exhausted. Dont give up so soon. Maybe you could have a "sleepy time" date. Consisting of matching bath robes, overstuffed bunny slippers and chamomile tea popcorn and a couple movies. Hang out and see if you can really just talk nap and talk more. You dont always have to go out to have a great time. Just ask her again. No pressure. Even Princess Diana had off days. Just because she didnt laugh, dosent mean it wasnt funny, she was just in a horrible mood. You are very funny Rich. :D

frankly, she's sounds like the boring one. it might have worked out better for the both of you if she had the foresight to reschedule. not a big deal: keep your chin up and get back out there--you'll find someone who loves your silly stories soon!

I agree with Irene 100% ... you should have offered to take her to pick up her keys and then take her home. you=her hero and if you are not boring (I don't think you are) she=your next girlfriend.

I can honestly say that a first date- especially a blind first date- wears me out. I'm not socially awkward by any means, but making conversation and trying to avoid the inevitable silence is just exhausting. Add that to her being worn out to begin with and six innings of baseball (which isn't exactly the most action-packed sport), and you have your answer.

It sounds like the beginning of night went well, but towards the end she either lost interest in you or she was seriously sick. If she's still interested in you and your date went well then your co-worker would try to set you up again. I'm guessing that she's not as interested.

Even if she was weary she would make some sort effort. If she was a good girl and not playing games taht would be the case. If I had to leave early and I was interested I would suggest a second date. "Oh, I'm sorry I can't stay, but once I get better let's go get drinks."

Gee...I'd say that she must have been interested in you because even though she was ill, had not slept, did not get to take a shower and would not be able to get into her apartment until after she made a trip to get a key, she still kept the date with you. I think that if you had truly wanted to shine, you should have said...well, instead of taking in the game, maybe I should make sure you are able to get a key for your apartment, so that you can rest, bathe and relax before work tomorrow ( I am assuming she works--you said it was a weekday) and we can reschedule our date, perhaps dinner tomorrow evening? ..if you are feeling better.

See your perspective on things is always about you. The poor girl was having one really bad day, no sleep, ill, unable to bathe and properly prepare for the date, and unsure about whether or not she would be able to get into her home after the date and all you were worried about was whether or not she thought you were boring? Did you even call her later to make sure she was okay and had been able to get into her apartment?

You always amaze me with your self-centered dating stories. Dear sir, please stop focusing on your own insecurities and realize that the women you date have their own insecurities and that women do realize that guys are generally nervous on first dates. We are nervous on first dates, too! When you stop focusing on yourself and start putting a little more focus on the person you are with, then your dates will turn out much better.

I think you should just chalk it up to not a match, and forget the whole evening. Frankly I don't care how much sleep she was running on - she was just rude. If she was that weary, she should have rescheduled with you. And it doesn't matter how interesting you are, someone out there is going to think you are boring and others will think you are fascinating. Kinda like: One person's trash is another person's treasure? Something like that, but only: One persons interesting is another person's boring. Continue to be yourself and the right gal will cling to your every word.

You should have offered to reschedule. Disaster averted.

"Alyssa said she was tired because she had locked her keys in her apartment the previous night and slept on a friend's couch. She got about three hours of good sleep. She also told me that she had been sick the past two days and was on antibiotics."

Your mistake was in be determined to go out with her after she told you this. Anyone who only got 3 hours of sleep would be expected yawn early in the evening. She gave you the perfect reason to back out of the date.
Why would you insist on having a first date with someone who is not feeling well. You're not boring just desperate!

Also it doesn't hurt to find out if the person is interested in the same things as you. She may not have been a baseball fan to begin with.

good story, i agree with most that sometimes i just isn't meant to be which is one explanation, or when she was giving you all the excuses u shoulda just rescheduled. you gotta commend the chick on still going on the date and toughing it out after the few days she had. i gotta respond to a few comments as well, Jill yours is hilarious. i had never put that much tough into what i eat on a date but that is actually sound advice. @tanisha "even a group jews" what does that even mean?

You had me at "but there was no way I was going to stay and watch my third least favorite team in all of professional sports (after the Steelers and Duke University) alone." As a Cleveland girl and UNC grad, that's all I really need in a man. You know, besides everything else.

Could you have picked a WORSE first date location and time????? You asked a girl who was sick and exhausted to sit through 3 and a half hours of a boring sport, before she even gets to go GET her key and go home on a work night. Honestly, it probably would have been fine if you hadn't set yourself up for over 3 hours of conversation with few distractions, sitting side by side watching a bunch of sports figures stand and occasionally hit and throw balls for 3 hours. Obviously she was interested in you, because, if it were me, I would have just cancelled. Maybe she felt guilty since you had already bought tickets. Whether it would have been a love connection under other circumstances, I don't know. But you have killed your chances now. What you should have done: 5th inning, stop buying beer, notice your date is responding less to conversation, remember that she is sick and tired, say something like, "I know you have had a rough week. I am having a great time, but if you are tired, I really don't mind leaving the game early maybe we can get a coffee and I can take you to go get your spare key." Short date with understanding guy, she texts you later saying "That was so sweet of you. Maybe we can get together next week when I am feeling better."

Seriously, she sounds like a train wreck...count your blessings! I for one cannot imagine committing to a blind date when I know I'm sick...run down etc. But at least if I had, I would try to be considerate of my date who is doing his best to be funny and kind and make the evening memorable.

Rich, you get an A for effort in my book.....there really is just no pleasing some people!

agree with irene..you should've offered to reschedule the date, and offered to help her out..then maybe she'd see see you as someone who is caring and not boring..btw..be grateful that she's still willing to go on date and have connversations with you although she was ill and had no aptment keys..

after reading some of your recent posts, i would have done the same as her.

Does everyone seriously believe she didn't get any rest because she was locked out of her apt.? That sounds like B.S. to me. I don't know about you guy's, but if I have no way to get into my own place there's no reason to be going on a date (of course it might be different b/c I'm a guy, but I doubt it). It sounds to me like she spent the night with the guy she really likes, and who only treats her as a booty-call. And your co-worker set you two up to try and get her away from that same guy. Also next time try taking her to the bar with live music and not a baseball game.