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    Ask Em and Lo: How can I speed up my orgasm?

    By | Love + Sex – Wed, Sep 24, 2008 7:28 PM EDT

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    Dear Em & Lo,

    My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while but he seems to finish before I do. How would I go about having an orgasm faster?

    --The Tortoise

    Dear Tortoise,

    Okay, imagine you wrote to us and were like, "My boyfriend and I go hiking every weekend but he's a really fast hiker and I can't keep up with him. Can you recommend any special hiking boots that would help me move faster? Or is there a medical procedure that would stretch my legs so that they would be longer and I could keep up?"...

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    You wouldn't even bother writing to us, would you? Because on the hiking trail you would just call out to your boyfriend, "Hey buddy, can you slow down a bit? I'm having trouble keeping up." And unless he was a complete ----- , he would. If he really enjoyed the workout he got from speed-hiking, you could tell him to do that when you weren't around.

    So why should sex be any different? We're not sure it's even possible to speed up your orgasm--be grateful you can orgasm with your partner at all! (Plenty of gals can't.) It is way easier for a dude to slow down than it is for you to catch up. Have you heard of foreplay? Or, heck, anything non-penetrative will probably draw things out. And conveniently enough, all those activities that will prolong his big moment--making out like you're teenagers again, cunnilingus, manual sex on you--are likely to bring you closer to yours. If even foreplay gets him all worked up, then he needs to keep his pants on a little longer. (He might also learn a thing or two from our answer to last week's love rings question.)

    Oh, and if he really enjoys the "workout" he gets from speed-ejaculating, then tell him to enjoy that on his own. Hey, ever guy needs a hobby.

    People for the Ethical Treatment of Tortoises,

    Em & Lo

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