Ask The Mouthy Housewives: My Husband, King Of Porn, Won't Have Sex With Me

37 year marriage? Face it, we all know why he started with the porn. You got old and probably let yourself go.

To the one who thinks they know how I look, I get complimented all the time on how young I look for my age, and still a size 10, so don't be so sure you have an obvious solution. I take pride in how I look AND how I carry myself!.......he never complained!...and I never turn away! yeah about that!!

Dear fellow wife of a porn addict, I completely understand where you are coming from, I've been dealing with porn as the "other woman" in my relationship on and off for many years. This really is an addiction, and my husband has come a long way through much introspection as well as couple's therapy, but he will always battle with it unfortunately. You should speak to your husband about how much you want to love him and do everything you can for him, but he needs to be the man you deserve in return. As with any addiction, he needs porn completely eliminated from his life, don't be afraid to ask him to put a security system on his computer that only you have the password to (my husband's has a little dog that shows up instead of any risque pictures or sites :) www.bluecoat.com/products/k9-web-security) This was a huge blow to my self-confidence as I'm sure you understand, but what I came to find was that he was not looking at porn to hurt me or replace me, his addiction stemmed from his own feelings of worthlessness and insecurity, as your husband may also be feeling when he chooses to look at porn instead of being with his loving wife. Don't be afraid to ask for what you deserve, but also be prepared to make serious life changes if he is unwilling to alter his behavior, and know that this is something he will battle for a long time, the issues may disappear and then reappear in several years because of new stressors and he returns to old habits. Good luck with whichever path you take--neither one will be short or pleasant.

Um, I would have to think a man who would prefer to watch porn instead of having sex with a real woman whom he supposedly *loves* is probably gay. It happens to the best of us sweetie. Find a man who can ROCK YOUR WORLD!

Recently my girlfriend casually asked: "Do you ever cheat on me"? I wasted no time in replying; "all the time, baby". Then I noticed the shocked hurt look on her face, and quickly followed up with; "oh...you mean with other people..."?

Your husbands a tool. Let him spank his monkey while you go get some real love. I find it hard to believe he's "a great husband" aside from the sex. If he's physically unavailable to you he's also emotionally unavailable too. I've been with my wife 16 years 8 married and I'd still hit it in a minute's notice given the chance...and I like porn just as much as the next red blooded testosterone filled man. You better go get yourself a real man or you'll be looking back on your life in 10 years wondering why you didn't.

A wife in hand is worth two hotties on the screen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have already made a previous comment, but just have to reinforce the point that a man, or woman, can view porn and still carry on a productive relationship/marriage also. I am a female, happily married for 5 yrs. and love looking at porn/erotica. (The fact that I am 35 and he's 26, may have something to do with it too;) But, aside from that, we both enjoy it. When he is at work and I am home, it makes me anticipate seeing him that much more. He'll pounce on me when I get home sometimes too! This, to me, is how porn should be used. We look at it separately most of the time, but don't feel the need to be ashamed or hide it. View it with your man, or in private, let it enhance things, not worsen them.

If he is not getting it from you it has to come from somewhere!!
I second T's motion!

my boyfriend (other than telling me that he is definitely attracted to me) is exactly the same way. we haven't had sex in 7 weeks and he could care less if/when we do. i'm tired of it. he watches porn every day. it makes me sick. i've bought cute little outfits, tried to spice things up. it doesn't do any good. we have a great relationship otherwise but honestly....i'm not getting much more than i do from my friends these days...

Three words: Madonna/w---- syndrome. As long as it's "legal" he won't get off. It sounds like he enjoys the clandestine meeting and the naughty side of sex...once you're married sex is ok, and that's a turn off for some. Plus you are now a "wife" the future or present mother of his children, and that will make it hard for some men to see you in a sexual way like it was when you were dating. The trick is to try some naughty out of the box ideas with him, and try to get him to see you in a more sexual light again.

We have tackled this issue of porn. My wife is very understanding and we each have our own quirks. If I want to watch porn, I can. I am a grown man living with my best friend and lover. We discussed porn and its values and how it turns me on. My wife is very creative. Next thing I know, I have the best porn star on the planet complete with outfits, technique, and attitude. We also addressed her needs. She is not needing for anything. We both sleep with smiles. Porn doesn't have to be a negative thing in a relationship. All you women out there. Have fun with your husband and watch the porn for ideas on how to please him. It also helps to have great communications and trust. You can not be embarrassed in front of your best friend. So turn on the porn and have fun! We have Tuesday night porn night. Use your imagination!!!!

she needs to do more kinky stuff. oral, anal, toys...

he's prob gay but won't admit it to himself. He's watching the dude in the porn, not the chick!

I hate to say it, but I think I agree with Ed.

Call it quits and see if the grass is greener on the other side for him. If you don't turn him on anymore, whats left. Going to a a marriage pro at this point would only make matters worse and cost you money and piss him off more. Your young and can start over, do it now. If his videos are working for him and better than the real thing let him go. Move on with you life.

I know a mouthy partener can destroy any feelings of anything let alone sex. By the way if it is just sex then maybe u never needed to be married coz sacred love makeing is for marriage not casual sex.

LOL...hit me up. I'll take care of business while hubby is spanking the monkey... ;)

here's what you can do, behave as if you're having an affair (but dont actually have an affair yet): stay out late without telling him where you're going. leave the house wearing something sexy. make sure you do this regularly. act as if not having sex with him is fine with you. go on a vacation alone without him. the way he reacts is your gauge. if he's indifferent, leave. if he changes, then its effective. if he finds it threatening that you might be having an affair, then the marriage could be saved, if not, its not worth saving....

IT WILL NEVER STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

screw that.. go out & find a bf.. that's what I did.. hehe.. works for me!!