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    Bad Boys: Why they make us feel so good

    By Erin Clements

    Public Enemies, Michael Mann's much-anticipated summer blockbuster, romanticizes the storied exploits of notorious Depression-era gangster John Dillinger (Johnny Depp)-including his courtship with loyal paramour Billie Frechette (Marion Cotillard). Ask any member of the female persuasion and it's not hard to figure out what turned Frechette into Dillinger's gun moll: The brazen bank robber possessed qualities often considered attractive-a cocky swagger, a disregard for authority. And though none of our beaux has ever held up the local Chase, many women today still find men with an appetite for danger-or at the very least, a little old-fashioned bravado (remember when we secretly applauded the punk from elementary school who sassed back the teacher?)-rather alluring.

    According to Dr. Theresa Rose, a psychologist who specializes in relationships, women are drawn to "bad boys" because-much like romance itself-they represent something fresh and different. "It strikes a chord with people when there's something new and exciting and dangerous," she says. "And while somebody on the outside looking in might say, 'Why is she with that guy? He's bad news,' it does typically meet a psychological need," one that she says often resonates with something in the subject's past.

    Dr. Thomas Miller, a health-and-behavioral psychologist, agrees that the proclivity for "bad boys" often stems from childhood experiences. "I worked for 17 years in a family violence clinic, and I saw a lot of children who experienced verbal, emotional, and physical abuse from fathers, brothers, stepfathers, and neighbors." Daddy issues aside, Miller cites other developmental factors, including hormonal desires for one-stop sex that emerge in adolescence and a fear of failure (settling for Mr. Wrong may take considerably less effort than landing Mr. Right).

    While the challenge of attaining a good guy can be daunting, the intimacy associated with a long-term relationship can be far scarier for some. "Girls who go for bad boys tend to avoid deep emotion," says Peter Jonason, a researcher at New Mexico State University. "They shy away from stable guys and are drawn to the more wild-card guys because it allows them to keep themselves at an emotional distance."

    Jonason's primary focus, however, is on male mating tendencies. Last summer, he studied the effects of the "dark triad"-narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy-on 200 college students and discovered that men who possessed these traits were more predisposed to seeking casual sexual partners. So, what does that say about the women they lure? "We suspect the issue is that they advertise good genes," Jonason says. "These are dominant men with mucho testosterone, and women are drawn to that type of guy, especially for short-term mating."

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    39 comments

    • Khurram Nadeem  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Its not a good fashion to have bad boys in your pocket.
      Who wants to disturb her life?
      We are blessed with life only once.
      Timely emotions creat long disturbance.
      So take care.
    • rodeo  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Angels love bad men.

      Try being nice = no girls

      A$$ Hole = all you can eat buffet (Pun intended)

      Truth is this: Nice guys finish last. So most "TRY" to be bad. Most fail miserably and come off like self inflated, egotistical punks, but they try.
    • Marsha  •  2 years 11 months ago
      I agree with princess.
    • Valerie  •  2 years 11 months ago
      I have the best of both worlds! I have a bad boy who treats me wonderful! There is no emotional distance between us. We are open with one another and can talk about anything. We have been together for almost a year now, and our relationship is great. I couldn't ask for anything more! :)
    • simone  •  2 years 11 months ago
      I used to love bad boys until he got me into some trouble. Now I'm sticking with the nerds!!!
    • Flame-n-Heather  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Jac, you sound self-important and fake. I don't believe a word you've said.
    • stephen  •  2 years 10 months ago
      I feel we all have a little of the Bad Boy in us , however once we are smittin, you woman could not make a better choice.
    • GALLIEN  •  2 years 10 months ago
      u no they love bad boys but when things go wrong they look 4 the nice...u no what they deserve what they get
    • vegmii  •  2 years 11 months ago
      i just wantt too fuck all the girlzzz
    • ray  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Maybe it's written in the stars to be a bad boy or not. I am big, self confident, impeteous, and good looking. When I walk into a dance, I pick and choose; sometimes the good girls resent me for not picking them. The endless stares, smiles, and flirts are part of my life. Some women will even try to take me from my current woman while she is standing right next to me. I get lots and lots of texts (i insist they give me THEIR number first so I make contact), and phone calls. One person asked: How can we make ourselves more alluring? The answer is simple, be yourself first. I am the type that needs lots of personal freedom, I cannot handle authority well, I cannot not handle domineering women. If you feel like you want to fall for a bad boy, you should think twice; because we want to love you, but then we want to run from you. Wouldn't be nice if we had a sign on our foreheads that reads: Love me, but I am going to break your heart.
    • Jonzzzzz  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Women love bad boys = thats why there are soooo many single mothers whining endlessly that they have no money for diapers for the kids THEY chose to have! Smarten up ladies, you choose to breed with bad boys you end up in poverty LOL ... Personally,, hookers are cheaper with none of the emotional crap ladies subject me to LOL..
    • H8 Hollywood  •  2 years 11 months ago
      I know why. It's because a lot of women are stupid enough to fall for an ass****. Then they get upset when he's a ass, break up with him and do it all over again a few months later. It never ends.
    • The_End  •  2 years 10 months ago
      *^_^*
    • A Yahoo! User  •  2 years 10 months ago
      P.Diddy is a BAD BOY and he run the city
    • korean pop star rain  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Eugh....
    • TJ S  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Haha, too funny. Yeah, they make you feel great!!!....that is, until they abuse, use and cheat on you. Then you blame all men for what they've done and have a warped self-esteem that causes you to see good men as boring or weak because they're not acting like asses! Take it from a former bad boy, not what you want. I grew up, matured and went on with the goals and dreams I have for myself and voila! Bad boy no more.
    • February  •  2 years 11 months ago
      I wish that was a question that could be easily answered but its not. But I think for now princess gave the best answer.
    • Holly C  •  2 years 11 months ago
      Kind of like the phrase, "You can't turn a whoe into a housewife." You can't turn a bad boy into boyfriend/husband material. Are the two along the same lines?
    • Jackie  •  2 years 11 months ago
      This article again? And the same old mealymouthed approval for "badboys" from Shine's low-self-esteem girl club......

      PREDICTABLE.
    • princess  •  2 years 11 months ago
      me too! Always have! Unfortunately they make the worst husbands/bf's. Flings - great! Anything esle - run!!!! :)

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