Chick Flicks Are Ruining Your Sex Life!

I almost peed myself with the Notebook response. HA!!! If women are really basing their lives off these films, then that's their unrealistic ideals and men shouldn't settle for someone like that. That's like being bat$hit crazy.

The whole Jake Ryan thing is right-on for the most part. But you didn't mention the underwear. There's two ways of looking at the scenario of Jake and the panties. 1-he keeps them, which is gross and disturbing; or 2-he's weirded out by the whole underwear scenario and decides Sam isn't worth it.

I dislike romantic movies mostly because everything that happens in them just SCREAMS fake. If I'm forced to sit through one by one of my friends I'm constantly thinking "It doesn't work like that" throughout the whole thing and it just ruins the movie for me.

I mean at least in an action or horror movie the screenwriters come up with a story line that could never happen so it doesn't tug at the edges of reality while being disapointingly false.

To be fair, I hardly think you can say that Wesley and Buttercup followed up the whole "as you wish" thing with a boring life. They made it through the fire swamp for crying out loud!!

So, while the b---- community goes off to establish its assorted bona fides, the lads and I will be off rebuilding 10 HP motors, killing Islamists, and otherwise keeping the world in a way that won't require you to dirty your petite fingers.

What's the payback, exactly? Bitches?

Unrealistic expectations is the reason that 2/3 of all divorces are filed by women. Hollywood obviously plays a big part in that.

i have always said the romantic movies are porn for women...they make us view men in an unrealistic way and hope for things that are just written by very talented, hollywood playwrights. life and love will never be close to the movies. i actually refuse to watch most romantic movies because i dont need to go thru life disappointed. im not saying men are unromantic im just saying those movies set the bar way too high.

I get you, Flower Power. It is subconscious desire- and women are exposed to fantasy men very early in life with fairy tales. So- I thought NONE of these movies were screwing up women. I blame Disney.

SARAH: Soo true!! Too many women get caught up in these fake and phony scenarios and while I get the whole "escape-ism fantasy" rationale, women turn around and hold guys to these standards. And I get that too, because I used to be one of those women and I DID find a guy who said and did all the right things and was endlessly romantic but he also was married. You can find men who have some of these qualities, but you cannot expect him to constantly be in romantic mode either. Just like men can't expect a woman to always want to behave like a porn star.

Most of these movies are spot on when it comes to the female roles, the male roles are so unrealistic! Men are nowhere near what these men are like. Men are immature, unromantic and just aloof about women and their feelings.

Wow, didn't know anyone took these movies THAT seriously. I mean, they are just movies after all. If one can't distinguish a movie from reality then they have problems but I still like the movies mentioned above for pure entertainment purposes only of course.

yeah destiny we already know about women like that. their mates are always named john for some reason.

"I mean, we’ve all been there. Even when we know it’s dumb to compare a real, three-dimensional guy with the fictional version on-screen, sometimes as the lights come up, we look to the guy at our side and go, 'Why can’t your dialogue be written by Nora Ephron?'

Sure. And many's the guy who's turned to his date and thought," Why can't her dialogue be written by somebody other than Lindsey Lohan or Paris Hilton?"

I love Notting Hill and Pretty Woman (not mentioned here). However I watch them knowing that such truly awesome love will never enter my life, so I don't try to measure my man (previous dates) by it. I just live my life vicariously while watching impossible love stories from both Bollywood and Hollywood.

I'm really surprised to hear that Hollywood got the ideal right for so many women! Every now and again I get stuck watching one of these stupid movies with a friend and I think these people's lives are so empty and worthless. Nobody is talking about current affairs and all of the interesting things that make up a life. Instead they are just completely obsessed with one small part of it (the desperation for a mate). I would think that a man obsessed with me would be pretty boring to date since he would have nothing to talk about...except me. Women come off as looking really stupid and co-dependent - and now that I think about it, so do men. I for one am EXTREMELY happy that my relationships, and my life for that matter, are so much BETTER than the movies!

As much as this is all true (hilariously so).... I'm one of those hopeless romantics that would love her own Jack Dawson <3

I hate women, their expectations, and their control.

You've maneuvered yourselves into the superior sex by law, and yet you want the chick flix too.

Well, to hell with all of you. Burn in hell. You've pussified men, you complete self-centered bitches.

To hell with you. Die without children, and without ever experiencing a real c--- .

You deserve much less. And when the Islamists come over the hill, and your deballed eunuchs will not protect you, you will have what you deserve.

To hell with you all.

Bitches.

My comment is by way of saying that YOU are ruining YOUR sex lives. AND YOU're ruining EVERYTHING for EVERYONE else.

BITCHES!!

Not that you'll care, until you can't get a decent morning-after pill.

Stupid self-centered bitches.

The comment about 'female porn' is on-target, that's _exactly_ the function these movies/stories serve. You can even identify various mirror-image patterns in both if you know what to look for. Not every woman carries the expectations over into real life, just as not every man does with porn fantasies, but some do. The thing is, just as with porn, a mate showing these behaviors in real life would not be romantic, often it would be kind of scary and obsessive. I'm a guy and if I was hit by the 'Sleepless In Seattle' bit, I would not get angry. Maybe I would have when I was younger, but now I'd do pretty much what he does, then go home, lock the door, and thank Heaven I didn't end up married to this dingbat. Ditto a lot of the behavior in romantic movies.

Or another example, a recent one, the proposal, which actually has funny moments but the premise of which, in real life, would mark the male lead as a genuine, 100% nutcase when he proposes to her at the end in that office area. (Which isn't to say he isn't likeable, as a guy at that movie I actually _liked_ the male lead, which is kind of unusual for me and a chick flick.)

Some of the old romantic comedies from the 30s and 40s are fun, the ones that didn't even pretend to take any of it seriously, though.

I don't think non of the recent posters understand that it doesn't have to be an obvious desire. It's more of an unconscious one. We expect our guy to take us out on Valentines day right? Or get a gift or remember our birthdays. I can go into deeper scenarios but you get me right