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    Couple vows they'll never be more than 15 feet apart

    New York TimesNew York Times
    What if rain or shine, no matter what, you and your partner, well, never parted? That is the case with Michael Roach, 55, and two decades younger Christie McNally, two Buddhist teachers who are literally attached at the spiritual hip, so to speak, and took vows to never be more than 15 feet away from each other. Oh and P.S.: They're celibate, too.

    In fact, believe it or not, according to an article that profiles them in the New York Times, it's that whole celibacy song and dance that actually makes them a controversial couple within the traditional Buddhist religion. Roach is one of a handful of Westerners who trained in the same Tibetan Buddhist tradition as the Dalai Lama, and became a monk in 1983. The problem: Monks must take strict vows of celibacy, and living with a woman, no matter whether they claim to be celibate or not, is a scandal. However, the couple claims that in order to attract more followers, their traditions must appeal to Westerners who might otherwise be turned off by any hint of gender divide within the religion. Hmm... Sounds suspicious to me, but anyway...

    So how do they cope with that sticky old 15 feet rule? Half of the year, it's fairly simple, since they both live in a tiny, 22-foot yurt (or tent) in the middle of the Arizona desert, where they read books at the same time and follow each other like shadows. (They first moved there to do a silent retreat, so from 2000-2003, they lived in complete, silence and meditation.)Things do get a bit more complicated when they travel. For example, if they can't get seats next to each other on a plane, they simply refuse to board. If one gets up to go to the bathroom, the other must follow and stand outside the door. Creepy much?

    I'm sorry, and I love my partner like the dickens, but I think we could both agree that this sounds like an absolute nightmare, or perhaps the setup for some crazy reality TV show. Obviously, you gotta admire that code of ethics. But still, even many devout Buddhists claim this behavior is too extreme. Thoughts people!?

     

    113 comments

    • A Yahoo! User  •  4 years 0 months ago
      People are strange.. 15 feet is within fart earshot.. I'm guessing there is a transcendentally spiritual benefit to hearing the other blow ass
    • American in Norway  •  4 years 0 months ago
      I have to agree with Lord Scrotus.... giggle.
    • Julie  •  4 years 0 months ago
      oh my god, could you imagine getting in a fight and not being allowed to storm out of the room without him being right behind you? I'd go crazy. And you can't have sex? No way would i ever agree to the 15 feet and no sex. *shudder* *shudder*
    • phillsop  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Well, this is some thing else. It may be that he has lost the ability sex and she is now in the heat of her life. What control. How do they sleep? Nearer than 15 feet?
    • Jackelyn  •  4 years 0 months ago
      That is just very wrong! All of it!
    • Lady Kelien  •  4 years 0 months ago
      So maybe its not pure Buddism the way Eastern Buddism is, but pretty much everything in the US is a hogpog of ideas. I don't get the feeling from the article she has to follow him. Its more of a mutual, I need to go over here, come with kind of thing. I doubt it lasts very long, if it does, More power to them. I hope it does. The one thing that always suprises me about the US is that we love our religous freedom but have no problems condeming anything out of the norm as a joke or a cult.
    • A Yahoo! User  •  4 years 0 months ago
      I wish them success if that's the lifestyle they choose, but personally I couldn't live that way. I love my husband dearly and we spend most our time together but the 15 foot rule would drive me absolutely crazy in about ten minutes flat.
    • G  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Ya know, if they like it, that's what mattes - whatever floats your boat...
    • SaidaL  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Okay, that is a bit much. 15 feet? I have two children and when they were toddlers, there were plenty times of I was more than 15 feet away from them.

      I'm going to be that close to you and no SEX? Forget it about! lol
    • Angel  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Sounds like a situation ripe for a sexual predator. Watch out for this guy!
    • Red Wing  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Before I can tag them as extreme or bizarre, I would need to understand why the 15 foot rule began. It is a different lifestyle choice, but the 2000-2003 living in silence is a bit left of center as well.

      15 feet does not mean they cannot have some privacy since they could be in different rooms and be less than 15 feet apart. Nor is there a qualification that the 15 feet requires that they are vertically aligned. They could be walking side by side. To avoid the farting aftermath, I personally would make sure I was upwind of my partner at all times.

      To our normal standards, this is weird, but at least it is peaceful and weird. They aren't hurting anyone, they aren't asking for welfare so it isn't costing any of us to be tolerant of their life choices.

      It seems they have transcended our limited ways of thinking.
    • AJ  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Ewwwwwww.
    • Charles  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Like all religions; It takes foolish people to believe such foolish things can improve their lives . Or better yet improve their death .
    • Laurie Whelan  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Wow, so many feel so strongly about this couple's personal decision to adhere to their convictions publicly. I find it somewhat sad that this couple has taken on the herculian task of attempting to change the world's opinion of a conceptualized way of living as their own personal science experiment. People will forget about them and they will be left will an unfullfilling sham of a marriage that very well could fail. If their marriage succeeds or fails, what will anyone have learned? I just don't see the point of it all. I do have a comment for the guy who made a comment about children being created because humans refuse to deny themselves orgasms. You are as misguided and uniformed as this couple. For me and my husband, our decision to have children was born out of something entirely different than the need to have an orgasm. They were both planned pregnancies, and borne from the desire to share our love with others, unconditionally. Sorry, I don't subscribe to your point of view on the matter. However, the beauty of this world is that you have your opinion and I have mine. What makes this world diverse is our abilities to accept other's convictions even if we do not agree with them.
    • SteelM  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Oh ma God!
      Dat's really a hell of a nightmare,who can stand dat??
      May b a year,just may b,but not more 4 sureeeeeeeeeeeeee
    • MJI  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Wow...he's GOTTA be impotent. Cmon! My hubby would love this situation. I would sneak out for a breather when he was sleeping!
    • MurphysGirl  •  4 years 0 months ago
      I am getting ready to get married and would never take the vow to keep my future spouse within 15 feet of me at all times! He would drive me insane!!! They have to live in a world that is "NOT OF THIS WORLD" Sounds like to me they use their religion as a cover to not be part of the real world where people actually have to work to live. So much for bathroom privacy!!!!
    • ThisRecordisNotOverYet  •  4 years 0 months ago
      This is not Buddhism, it's Hypoactive Delirium. They're so afraid of being considered Western, it's sickening (literally). Ugly people tend to do these things.
    • AJ  •  4 years 0 months ago
      Ewwwwwww.
    • Terry Marsh  •  4 years 0 months ago
      What do they do when either needs to use the toilet?

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