How Young is Too Young to be Married?
Posted by Maggie McGee for BounceBack.com
My sister, Kate, is a twenty-one year old married woman. Twenty-one? Married? You may be surprised by her relationship status in comparison to her age, but I have to argue that she was not too young to get married, and young couples are not doomed to fail.
Today, my parents loaded up a U-Haul truck and helped Kate move down to Maryland with her husband. The couple got married about a week and a half ago, and is now moving in together. I will admit, that I too, being only twelve months younger than my sister, was a bit in shock, and wondered if this was the right move. All my friends were surprised when I told them about the somewhat spur of the moment marriage. Even Kate told me that she received barely any congratulations, and that most people she told, friends, coworkers, even family, questioned her move.
So, you may ask, why did she rush into her marriage? Well, I now understand that she totally didn't. Brian, her husband, is twenty-five years old. They met in college, both going for a degree in education. They dated for four years, since her freshman year, and he finally got a job. The only problem was that this job was in Maryland, five hours from our home in New York.
Therefore, Kate found herself in a predicament. She loved her boyfriend, and wanted to be with him, but he was moving down south for work. To complicate things more, Kate also received an offer for a job here in New York. Was she going to drop everything (the job, her family) and go live with Brian, without any promise of a future with him? Sure, they could have lived together down there, but she needed a promise of a future with him before she ditched everything she loves about New York. And just like that, Brian proposed.
Kate and Brian have been together longer than some older married couples, and she knew she would marry him eventually, so why not now, during this new exciting time?
So, how young is too young to get married? After analyzing Kate's situation, I realized that the answer is related to three main factors:
1. The couple's maturity
2. The couple's job status
3. The couple's overall goals in life.
Kate has known that she wanted to marry Brian since she first met him. They have been together for four years, and they want to same things in life. Therefore, a couple is not doomed if they get married under twenty-five. They might just have to work a little harder to make it last.
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