Making it Work With Opposite Schedules
By James Lane for BounceBack.com
We all know that opposites attract, but do opposite schedules do the same? In this day and age, trying to date someone is hard, but trying to date someone with an opposite work schedule can seem almost impossible. How do we manage to maintain a relationship if our work schedules conflict?
Perhaps you work a 'normal' 9 to 5, Monday through Friday work week and your partner works only weekends, or night shifts. There doesn't seem like too much available time. Finding time to get to see each other could be really tough, but it also could be what your relationship needs, especially the first few months. Being busy and unavailable most of the week to your partner could really strengthen the bond the two of you have. Sure, it gets lonely, but it makes those times when you do spend a day or night together that much more special.
Leaving notes and cards behind for your significant other to find could be a way to have some sort of intimacy. Maybe when you leave for work in the morning, attach a Post-It note to the bathroom mirror saying something sweet. Or when you come home late at night, have a card sitting on the kitchen counter for them to find in the morning.
If you do not live together, then there are millions of ways to communicate. Send emails, text messages, and even phone calls on your drive to and from work. It will almost be like having a long distance relationship with someone who lives in the same city.
Just make sure that you are always going to be available at least one day a week to each other. Perhaps you both are off on Sundays. Make that the day to spend together and plan a special day/night. I know it seems crazy, but sometimes not seeing the person you are dating every day, or every other day for that matter, can help the relationship grow into something it wouldn't have been.
There are always possibilities of getting sick of each other, or always fighting about miniscule things. But on your special day to have a date, you won't have time for fighting or arguments and you will truly be happy to spend the time with the one you love. So, don't stress right now about having opposite schedules, because if it is meant to be, and there is a connection there, you will always find a way to make it work.
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