I want to fall in love the way it happens in commercials. You see each other in a crowded room, sultry looks are exchanged, wham bam, you buy a car. It all happens instantly, and that's the way I want it. It doesn't happen that way in real life; apparently falling in love is serious business. There are many dates with many different people. Lots of walking, lots of kissing, lots of banal chatter. And rarely is there a connection.
If you're in out on the prowl, Elastic Waist has amazing suggestions for dates that don't involve eating.
I like to think that I rise above all the typical single young woman traps, that my mama taught me better, and that I have too much respect for myself to make obviously self destructive choices. But, the truth is, I'm a total cliché.
A new study was just released saying that women who are on the Pill may make poorer mating choices than those not on contraception. Something about the Pill simulating pregnancy and women don't look for mates during pregnancy, therefore our good-man-smelling receptors (no really there's a smell according to this study) are all wonky. I would love to blame my sexually responsible nature for my innate inability to like nice guys, but the truth is I've always liked men who were just a little bit ----- . Not all jerkwad, just enough to make them unpredictable. Cliché, I know, and I hate it about myself.
I've got a pretty full dance card these days. Unfortunately some of the gentlemen on it are really, really great guys--which makes me feel like a giant b---- , because I don't have that tingly feeling in my stomach; I don't wake up thinking about them and my appetite is perfectly intact. It ain't falling in love, that's for sure. But I'm trying to go against my natural instinct and convince myself that I deserve to be with a really great guy.
Join Kim as she gets some helpful pointers from dating coaches Jordan Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak on how to pick up and be picked up.
My question to you ladies of coupledom is: does the bad boy phase pass? Am I doomed for ever to be unreceptive to chivalry? Will I wake up one morning and realize that good guys are where it's at?
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