Dating Someone Who's Already Taken: Can You Hack It?

Nothing 'Just happens'. This is a choice. Just happening is a victims view-point. Take control of your life and your choices. No one else is going to care enough to. If someone is 'taken', choose a different path. This is a no-win situation. You are either going to be hurt or be a (insert your own derogatory name here) for hurting someone else.

I thought it was going to be a satirical piece, but it really is an advice article about dating someone else's partner, wow.

The writer forgot the most important truth: If they will cheat with you, then they may cheat on you.

"Sometimes it just happens"? Pah. And #$%$

I can't believe the kind of advice that is being given these days! If someone is taken why put yourself through the idea of sharing. If they are not willing to leave a committed realtionship for you then they are using you for their own gain/pleasure. You are the backup and the starter is already playing the game while you are on the bench waiting to be called in. If they are just dating and you are one of the people they are dating then there is no problem. Dating and actual relationships are different. Plus it sucks to find out the person you were in love with actually was seeing someone else that knew about you. Usual the one being cheated on never knew the other person was in the picture.

If the person is married, then you must not pursue them. If they are not, then it is permissible to date them only if the other person is aware of it and has the option of dating others also. No sneaking around. BTW, keep out of bed with the person you want to date and you will have a better idea if they are the one for you. Sex with someone causes a false sense of the person being the "one and only."

I could never date someone who was taken. As a human being, I like to try to imagine how I would feel if I found out someone had been dating my boyfriend behind my back, so I think to myself "Why would I do something that awful to another person?". People who date other's who are taken are selfish. There's no other word for it, and for the ones who are taken but decide to date outside that that relationship are equally selfish.

"Mate copying" is a big reason this happens often. The most attractive women (when they don't want to be single) usually aren't single for very long. It's because they already have the next guy lined up because another woman's choosing of him makes him seem to appear to be more attractive.

lol really giving advice for cheating now?

And where's the future in that?

Co-Dependent weaklings, all of them.

Ooooh that is just low on both sides..It's better to end one relstionship before stating a new one..Because if "the new realtionship" takes flight, there will always be that dirty element to it.

Are you kidding me? An article giving advice to cheat? I knew Shine articles were #$%$ but this gives it a whole new definition.If someone's taken LEAVE THEM ALONE. Find someone else. Dumb #$%$

Falling for someone who is taken CAN just happen. The part that's a choice is taking/not taking action on it or not.

What kinda whoring advice is this. Leave taken ppl alone and go find your own man/woman whatever.

If someone really love me , I can feel it. If I am not available or I do not love him, I will tell him directly, I do not want to make one friend to misunderstand me and I do not want to lose one friend. On ther other hand, If someone play to pretend love me , I would not waste my time to explain to that person, I really do not care he misunderstand me or not, I would play to pretend love him, if I am boring. If that person does not care my feeling, why I have to care that person's feeling .

I love reading these comments because people have essentially made judgments about anyone who cheats. Sometimes things DO "just happen" because people lie and all of a sudden you find yourself in a relationship with someone who is already taken and you didn't know it. What you do from there is your choice. Yes, this happened to me and I chose to leave, but I never chose to be with a married man because I didn't know.
No one is advocating cheating here, but the reality is that people do enter into these relationships and they're people, just like you and me. Who is to say they don't deserve advice that is more than just "don't do it"? That does not help them figure things out. There are emotions that can't be ignored and some people need some tools to help them figure it out!

If it will it will and if it don't it don't....if it does it does and if it don't it don't..
HANK JR.

I won't do it becauseI have uh what was it ,oh yeah high moral standards,values ,and hell all the rest of that kind of stuff. any way there's a whole bunch of it, and I got it all.

you never really know what you would do until you're in the situation and not everybody's reaction will be the same....circamstances might make people do what they never thought they would do. as long as you are aware of all the pros and more so the cons of entering into such a relationship. then you should take it in good stride when things go pear shape and say to yourself 'i knew this could happen' and try and prepare yourself for it before hand.

if someone is cheating to be with you its very likely that they will cheat on you when the next "better" thing comes along, why put yourself through it... I understand that probably somewhere in the world two people started this way and lived happily ever after but its not the norm, what happened to values?