Dealing with Getting Your Heart Broken

Getting heart broken, or dumped, is a very challenging and stressful time, especially when you really loved and cared for the person. I have been down this road and let me tell you, it was not a pretty sight. I was a mess and thought my whole life was over, and you may too if you are experiencing this also. But here is how I dealt with it and am now happy and not depressed.

1: Think of the positives - You may not see it now, but after someone has decided to break up with you, you can see what you could not see before when you were with the person. For instance, my ex was very controlling. He didn't want me to go anywhere without him. And he always got mad if I was simply talking to another guy. After he broke up with me, I saw that, and all the other stuff that he did to me that made me give up my normal life. This made me realize that I don't have to put up with that anymore! I have my own life and my own goals and dreams. Even after we broke up, my ex tried to control me. He told me not to tell anyone why he broke up with me because he didn't want to look like the bad guy. And I didn't tell anyone for a couple of weeks, yet he still got angry and told me I was starting drama. Anyways, the point is, is that now that you are apart from him/her, you can see what you didn't see when you were with them, and focus now on your own life and not someone else's also.

2: Go do stuf f- If you are extremely upset, like I was, go out and do stuff with your friends and family. It really helps get your mind off of it. Perhaps you could go to an amusement park or go roller skating or go to a football game. Anything that will help you to stop thinking about the person that broke up with you. It really does help, and even though you will still feel hurt, it gets better every single day.

3. Talk it out - Talking to your friends and family may also help. My friends saw things going on that I did not see when I was with my ex. They helped me see that my ex was not the loving, caring person that I thought he was. This will help you to realize that you do not need your ex. He/she is just a thing of the past.

If you are going through a break up with someone, I hope this helped you. I know exactly how it feels to be hurt by someone that you thought cared about you. But one day, you will find that one person who will never leave your side. Good luck and keep your chin up! The sun will rise up again tomorrow!