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    Demi Moore Hospitalized: Can Divorce Make You Sick?

    Demi Moore is facing health concerns in the wake of her split. (Photo by Jim Spellman/WireImage)Demi Moore is facing health concerns in the wake of her split. (Photo by Jim Spellman/WireImage)Beyond the gossip of Demi Moore's hospitalization, just two months after announcing her split from husband Ashton Kutcher, is the glaring reminder: divorce can make you sick.

    "Because of the stresses in her life right now, Demi has chosen to seek professional assistance to treat her exhaustion and improve her overall health," said Moore's rep in a statement earlier this week.

    A flurry of unconfirmed reports suggest her "exhaustion" is code for substance abuse and malnourishment. An eating disorder, a late-night 911 call, a seizure, a nitrous oxide binge, are the whispers around the web.

    Read more about Demi's divorce and her smart statement on why it's over.

    There's less talk about how the very public breakup of her marriage could be at the heart of her health problems. Not surprisingly, the effects of a broken heart take a physical toll. A review released this month by University of Arizona researchers found that divorced adults are at a higher risk of an early death than married adults. The effects of a split can be as harmful to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, being overweight or drinking heavily, according to the report.

    One 2006 study found that middle-aged women, in particular, are at a greater risk of cardiovascular disease than married women of the same age. Cancer and mobility issues have also been linked to the after-effects of a long-term romantic separation.

    But in the initial days and months after a divorce, the mental health risks are most threatening .

    Read more: 10 costly divorces in sports

    "When you are processing the ending of a marriage you are overcome with a variety of complex emotions--sorrow, anger, shame, fear," explains Rachel Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and author of The Breakup Bible. "Sleep and one's ability to eat may be impacted by the sorrow and stress, [which in turn] may affect your overall health and cause you to get very run down."

    A painful split is also grounds for a relapse of bad habits. Eating disorders, long-under control, may resurface in times of stress. Most notable, substance abuse is found in higher rates for women during a divorce than men, according to a WHO World Mental Health study.

    Moore has touted her clean living lifestyle in the years after her early '80s rehab stint but anyone who has suffered from drug addiction knows the threat of relapse hovers in times of transition.

    "Demi Moore is a recovering addict so for someone like her a divorce may indeed produce a relapse," Sussman tells Shine. "Addicts turn to substances for a variety of reasons including the need to mollify pain. It's a poor coping mechanism and will often produce the opposite effect than the one you are looking for."

    While the WHO study found more women using substances as band-aids during divorce, men were more likely to become isolated and depressed. Kutcher might not be the shining example of that statistic. While Moore battles her demons, Kutcher's been parading around Brazil's fashion week and sucking on coconuts for his twitter followers.


    To be clear, just because there are risk factors to divorce, staying in a troubled marriage isn't the healthy choice either. One University of Iowa study found that couples who weren't happy together had lower immune systems and took longer to heal than happily married spouses.

    Sometimes, divorce is the only option. But setting a self-preservation game-plan doesn't end with finding an attorney. In searching online for the terms "divorce" and "health risks," you have to plow through alarmist warnings about the health risks for children of divorce before you can find anything about surviving as a parent.

    Here's the short list of priorities to protect your mind and body during divorce: Exercise to prevent depression and keep your appetite and sleep patterns in check. Then commandeer your support system: family, friends, even therapists, and sponsors depending on your needs. "Deal with your grief head on," advises Sussman. "It hurts but better now than later."

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    • Barbara  •  Los Angeles, California  •  27 days ago
      I think one of the hardest things to deal with in divorce is that it feels like a death, but you're not given the same sympathy, and room to grieve, that a widowed person gets.

      My best friend's marriage fell apart horribly when her husband walked out on her (and their 3 young children) for another woman. She was devastated. Just three months prior, my husband died unexpectedly in a car accident. I got a ton of love, support, sympathy and help - she got almost nothing from the people around her - in fact, some were blaming her for the failure of the marriage. She had to stay up and moving for her kids, but her health began to fail in a number of ways.

      We need to give the newly divorced the same love and care as we give those whose partners have died. It hurts just as badly - in fact, it hurts a lot more. I knew my husband loved me when he died, and our marriage was strong. My friend had to live with the loss and betrayal of love and trust - in many ways, a much greater blow than mine.
    • muga  •  Irvine, California  •  27 days ago
      Demi-dust your self off/ and move on with life. Being single @ 50 is not the worst thing that can happen to you.
    • Gail J  •  Monterey, California  •  24 days ago
      Yes divorce can make you sick, it can make you crazy. Just how sick depends on the indivdual. I've never been divorced but I am a widow. It means that your spouse of many years, long or short is gone forever. There is no more loving, touching, kissing, arguments, I'm sorry,holding hands, walks, laughing, and crying, there is nothing. I took care of my husband for 5 of the 12 years we were married. So I had first hand experience of slowly watching him die. I had to be strong, because we had a son who also needed me, so falling apart wasn't an option, plus there was a family business. Death and divorce means the same thing.....it's over. I didn't have time to morn till years later when it actually hit me. I went from size 7 to a size 0 in just a matter of months. My system just shut down. I took pills to go to sleep, to get up to function. I was just here. Everyone and I do mean everyone handles death and divorce differently. I suddenly had to get my act together because as I mentioned earlier my 8 year at the time depended on me to take care of him. But for me to do something to myself because a man left me, I don't think so. I love myself for more than that. Yes it hurts but one will get over it time. Whether you're a man or a woman, you just have to be strong. Believe me it gets better.
    • higherground925  •  Wappingers Falls, New York  •  26 days ago
      yes it makes you sick...sick you didnt get out sooner
    • liz  •  Victoria, Texas  •  27 days ago
      a bad marriage can make you sick - and the divorce will make you better - been there!!!!
    • impala  •  Isleton, California  •  27 days ago
      My divorce made me so dam happy and my health improved significantly. So divorce can make some people sick and some very healthy and depends on the situation. Demi needs to start eating and get away from her pills or whatever she is taking if not, it will certainly take a toll on her mental and physical health.
    • Rusty  •  26 days ago
      I hope this disclosure of my battle will help others . I can relate to the effects that a seperation of a family can have on your entire life , as long as you live . I experienced it at the age of thirty five , loseing my home , not, talking of a house , was the worst thing that could have happened to me at that time in my life .we were a family of six . i will take the full respossibility for the destruction of our marriage . my partner was always faithful to me and my children . I guess that is what made it worse because of the guilt that I felt . My priorities were not in perspective , it was selfishness on my part . I have since married twice , but that doesn't heal the wounds of the first and the damage to the lives of the children . Marriage is suppose to be for better or worse and for keeps . But divorce has become as common in today's society as going to the doctor . Some take marriage more seriously than others and it should be taken very seriously as the Bible teaches us , Paul said , " husbands love your wives , even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it".
      " wives obey your husbands ". 1st CORINTHEANS , 7th CHAPTER . Husbands are to be the care-giver , protector and provider of the entire family . That is old fashioned ,GOD WORD and direction hasn't changed in all these thousands of years . Once the marriage is desolved , you can't bring that trust back again . So do some work on your marriage before it is to late to turn back . It is more important than money , job , power , pride , family is what we work for , But always put GOD first in your life . GOD has promised that he would never leave us or forsake us , even if the whole world turns their back on us and leaves us behind . GOD is the only one that we can put our full trust in .But we must follow his will if we expect to recieve his gift of eternal life . This is not intended to pass judgement on anyone , only to
      try and help someone else who is suffering . Divorce is like a cancer it takes it's tole on a person , and the more that you love , the worse the pain and suffering . The family who prays , together , stays together . Remember , every moment that passes is gone forever and we can't get it back , so make it count for goodness and not for evil .It does take two , if one is trying to carry the entire load , It just won't work .

      I like Demi and do pray that she will have a full recovery and use this as a lesson in lifes troubled world , to better herself and not let this set back destroy her life .
    • Barrio Girl  •  Los Angeles, California  •  25 days ago
      This must be so scary for her children...
    • annemarie  •  Boston, Massachusetts  •  14 days ago
      YES Divorce can make you very sick, I lost 70lbs and became very sick. It is like a death .I also have friends who became very depressed & sick. When I saw Demi Moore I felt that she was going threw the heartache of divorce. The divorce diet. unfortunately you have to get threw it. ALSO she has money that makes it easier than those of us who dont and she also has her daughters that should of helped her. IT is very sad but she will be fine ,she wont have to worry where her childrens meals or how will they survive thankfully she is well off.It might have been harder because of the media that would add to the stress
    • JAN  •  27 days ago
      I do not know if divorce makes you sick, but married to that punk would of made me think twice before the vows!
    • june  •  27 days ago
      When you love truly love the right way for the right reasons, its going to take time to heal. My ex BF asked me to marry him and then 4 days later broke it off and then asked someone to marry him a week later to someone he just met on line...and she actually accepted..what kind of woman does that? a woman with her own issues...
      I loved him loyally and faithfully and honorably. for 3 years..now he is engaged...I do not wish to be bitter, but better, but I do believe in Karma and its not gonna be any easier for him then it is for me. I still love him but I can never trust him with my heart....and that he used God's name behind every I love you to me..shame on you Mark Becker
    • firedoc5  •  Shreveport, Louisiana  •  24 days ago
      You bet it can. I took my first divorce harder than I should. Wound up in the hospital puking up blood. For months (actually a full year) I was totally incapacited. Like I said, I took it TOO hard.
    • Tom  •  Farmington, Michigan  •  24 days ago
      yes it can make you sick. I ended up having a heart attack at 45 yrs due to the stress and I ened lossing every thing after that.
    • BrownSugar  •  Aurora, Colorado  •  24 days ago
      She needs to be concentrated on her job, family and friends. Stay alone for a while and enjoy life, we only have one don't waste your time destroying yourself its always a happy end and the end of the bumpy road and for the comments about her marriying a younger man, no matter how young or old your partner or date can be only if they are honest, respectful and love you. Love yourself first. The best to you Demi.
    • POPI  •  23 days ago
      Just throw her in the pile of Celebritys getting divorced that can't handle it. Try living on unemployment,losing your house no where to go then come talk to me. No sympathy here
    • kim a  •  Houston, Texas  •  23 days ago
      yeah? The drugs aren't responsible at all, huh?
    • cc  •  26 days ago
      I was sick with colds and sinus infections for 10 years after my divorce and depression struck hard. In cases like mine, my wife had an affair with her boss, it is like having a loved one die, but then the resentment builds and feeling like a failure consumes.
    • ToothAndClaw  •  New Hartford, New York  •  24 days ago
      divorce will make you ill.
    • Phyllis  •  Danville, Virginia  •  23 days ago
      You can botox, go vegan, exercise daily, marry a child, even have plastic surgery, you are still the age you are. Stop trying to regain the past and live, cherish and enjoy the present. It is what it is
    • Kathryn  •  Norfolk, Virginia  •  23 days ago
      I saw this coming a long time ago. So sad. They said that Ashton's infidelity was brought on by her abuse of prescription meds...... there's always two sides to every story but it enver makes divorce any easier.