All couples will occasionally get into an argument. This is a very natural part of being in a committed relationship. But if you argue correctly, Dr. Drew's Lifechanger/Certified Life Coaches The Amazing Clarks say it can actually empower you to grow closer as a couple.
Here are 5 quick tips to help you argue "the correct way":
1. Allow Your Partner to Vent First, Without You Interrupting
Once they're finished, it's your turn. If you both try to debate your perspectives at the same time, it will only intensify your emotions and the need to win.
2. Before You Tell Your Side of the Story, Make the Statement, "From My Perspective…"
Doing this will let your partner know, subconsciously, that you realize there are other perspectives. It will also let your partner know that you are open to multiple outcomes. This will make him/her feel more hopeful and open-minded, and less combative.
3. Treat Them the Way You Want to Be Treated
In a relationship, you are constantly mirroring each other's energy, actions, and emotions. Therefore, if you want the other party to be more positive and cooperative, you have to be positive and cooperative yourself.
4. Focus on Something You Appreciate About Them
You are obviously in this relationship because you like, and hopefully love this person. Whenever you are in an argument, remind yourself of the things that you love and appreciate about him/her -- it will help.
5. Fight to Grow, Not to Win
You both want a happier and more fulfilling life, "But to go there, you have to grow there." Arguments are opportunities to achieve that growth and create new and better perspectives together. Learn from this interaction, so the next time you get into an argument, remember, fight to grow... not to win!
Watch as Lifechangers The Amazing Clarks walk us through a life-changing exercise to help a feuding couple find their way back to the love they once knew:
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