Fighting: Beneficial or Destructive?
Posted by Alex Johnson for BounceBack.com
As the Olympics are well under their way, I was watching the Boxing matches and for some reason, my mind went to think how boxing and relationships go hand in hand. In boxing, we have two opponents on opposite sides of the ring, both ready to meet in the middle and duke it out until there is only one person standing. When arguing in relationships, it is eerie how similar the sport and the arguing we do are almost identical. Sure, there are no gloves or referees involved but it got me thinking…is arguing good or bad for the relationship?
When it comes to relationships there is the classic saying that is best to never go to bed angry. I firmly believe that to be true.
For a few reasons:
One: You get a better night rest for yourself.
Two: You don't wake up the next day facing another bad day because you didn't resolve your issue from the night before.
There are so many types of arguments that occur in a relationship. They can range from nagging your partner to pick-up their socks to finances. The one thing that we should pay attention to is that, are you fighting about the same thing over and over again? If the answer is yes, then it might be time to think about the future of the relationship. If nothing ever gets resolved, then the future begins to look mighty bleak.
The best way you can tell if fighting is good for your relationship or not is if you are not only resolving the issue at hand, but that it never is brought up again. I like to see this as when someone gets a brand new puppy and you begin the process of potty training the dog. It takes patience, consistency and understanding. If you don't train the puppy properly, it will continue to make a mess in the house. So, if you and your partner are fighting and are coming to an understanding, it is then in our best interest to respect what you both agreed upon and move forward with never having to look back. No one wants a mess in the house after all.
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Unfortunately with arguing in a relationship, there is no referee to tell us to go back in our corners and think about how you are going to go back out there and conquer our opponent. Instead, we are left to go with our gut instincts. Just a word to the wise….Use your words wisely, because once it leaves your lips and is exposed to the universe, there is no taking it back. Good luck!
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Alex Johnson is a freelance writer and is currently living in New York City. Follow his blog about love, dating and all in between at: www.updatenyc.net