Cross dressingAdvice from three of Em & Lo's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "We read a lot about women who 'have sex like men.' What do you think it would mean to do it "like a woman'?"
Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I think it just means liking to have your hair pulled. I kid. I think, very broadly stereotyping here, that a fella who wanted to do it like a woman would want to take things very slowly. Hours of foreplay followed by slow, rhythmic lovemaking, plenty of eye contact and scented candles. Afterwards there would be much cuddling. But, in real life, some ladies like it hard and fast and some guys want to O simultaneously and hold hands and collapse into tearful, sleepy embrasure. Allegedly, it's easier for dudes to do it without emotional connection, but who knows if that's true.
Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I hate it when people say that. It just means we've got really dim stereotypes about women. So I'm not enthusiastic about rising to the bait. But if I had to answer I'd say it would mean to (only on average, obviously): a) when younger, do it slightly more often than he really felt like it but not quite as long as he liked when he did; and b) when older do it slightly less often than she really felt like it but a little longer than she liked when she did.
Another way: noticing all the really pleasurable things about doing it that aren't Os… while possibly wondering why he can't have orgasms with his partner as easily as he can have them by himself.
Gay Married Guy (Joel Derfner, Author of "Swish"):I'm going to go with wishful thinking here and say it means having Os that last twenty seconds and can be repeated over and over and over again. You lucky b*&t$hes.
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