Sex After Your Ex
By Penny Paige for BounceBack.com
"Some say the ex makes the sex spectacular…" - A favorite quote of mine from an old 90's song. Perhaps I like it so much because there's something about sex with the ex. We can't put our finger on it, but that "it" factor is there and it's hard to walk away from (whether willingly or unwillingly). It's easy to engage in sex with a familiar face, a familiar touch, famili...
"Some say the ex makes the sex spectacular…" - A favorite quote of mine from an old 90's song. Perhaps I like it so much because there's something about sex with the ex. We can't put our finger on it, but that "it" factor is there and it's hard to walk away from (whether willingly or unwillingly). It's easy to engage in sex with a familiar face, a familiar touch, familiar dirty talk, hell - familiar genitalia! Familiarity is good, but let's face it - it's also monotonous.
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So now that he/she is gone, it doesn't mean that your sex life has to be gone with them!
Have I grabbed your attention? Good! Now, I'd like you to say hello to some new friends… These aren't the friends you'd go out for drinks with, these aren't the friends you'd go out to eat with, and these damn sure aren't the friends you'd introduce to your parents (well maybe… but that's an entirely different article). These friends are going to help you get over the hump (pun intended) of your conventional sex life walking away with your ex.
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I believe a buzzworthy friend like this one deserves the first introduction. A few years ago a friend of mine invited me to meet for drinks in the Soho area of NYC after work. Since I worked in Noho (a few blocks over), I agreed to the outing, quickly dolled myself up, and made my way to "Babeland". I thought that was a great name for a bar, after all I'm a babe. Upon entry, I soon realized that Babeland wasn't a bar… It was an adult toy shop. Initially I was taken aback, but within minutes I became acquainted with my surroundings.
Babeland (located at 43 Mercer Street, NYC, 94 Rivington Street, NYC, or online - : www.babeland.com) was founded by two women - in answer to the "lack of women-friendly sex shops" as they so eloquently state on their website. They specialize in high quality toys AND offer educational informational sessions to women (and men) who want to be encouraged while exploring their sexuality. Toys, (I mean friends to hang out with) include: vibrators, adult DVD's, sex books, and dildos. My personal pick is the "Babeland Pocket Rocket"; a discreet, personal vibrator that retails for $17.99. It only requires a single double a battery and is velvety soft to the touch. Let's just say that good things cum (wink, wink) in small packages…
The variety in the store was amazing! In addition to that, the customer service was great. The staff was ready and willing to answer just about any question I had about the merchandise, and they also informed me of things that I wasn't knowledgeable of. I highly recommend a visit to Babeland; you'll make a lot of new friends?
For those of you who aren't quite ready to venture into adult toy stores, you do have the option of viewing goods from the comfort of your own home. As previously mentioned www.babeland.com is one option, but I have another NEW website for you. Grammy award winning songstress, Ms. Kandi Buress has launched Bedroom Kandi (www. http://bedroomkandi.ohmibod.com/). Her website boasts of toys that "sets a new standard of luxury, sophistication, and fun for single and couples play."
The merchandise at Bedroom Kandi is a bit pricey, but the innovation of the toys found here make up for the expense. From the "Kandi Kisses" discreet vibrator shaped like a tube of lipstick (http://bedroomkandistore.ohmibod.com/kandi-kisses) retailing at $59 or the "Make Me Over" vibrator that comes in a compact (that stores and CHARGES the vibrator - http://bedroomkandistore.ohmibod.com/make-me-over) retailing at $89, I was simply impressed.
To set the mood even more, turn your phone off (or set it to vibrate) so you won't have interruptions. Pour a glass of that wine you've been saving for that "special occasion", indulge in some aromatherapy (burn your favorite candle or oil), play some music to set the tone, and slip into whatever makes YOU feel sexy and comfortable.
There you have it! Your sex life is no longer tied to the ex - it's time to get acquainted with your new friends. Enjoy!
Penny Paige is a native New Yorker that currently resides in the burbs' of Queens. She is lover of music & dancing, summertime in NYC, lives for traveling, is a die-hard hopeless romantic, and loves to try new cuisine at the drop of a dime.
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