How to see yourself more clearly
By Patia Braithwaite for BounceBack.com
So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel? Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on. What does ...
So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel?
Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on.
What does your body feel like?
So many of us live our lives in our heads. We discuss, we ponder we ruminate, but how do we feel??? The sensations in your body (belly ache, tension in your neck), are indications of our inner state. Pay attention and respond accordingly.
What advice are you giving others?
If you find that your recent advice and conversations are peppered with the spice of bitterness and anger, perhaps you should examine your feelings.
Ask your most honest friend.
While asking others what they think of you isn't our favorite form of checking in with ourselves, sometimes our friends see things more clearly than we do. Perhaps an honest conversation with a good friend will give you some insight into how you are dealing with and releasing your feelings.
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Are you meditating?
Sit with yourself and see what comes up. Trust the feelings and thoughts that emerge, but don't judge them -- let them go.
What are you dreaming about?
Maybe the dream where you were stomping on your ex's head with your six inch stilettos is an indication that you might be holding in some anger. For more obscure dreams check out www.dreammoods.com
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Write yourself a letter.
This is a great way to check in with your inner self. Take a deep breath, put the pen to the paper and see what comes out -- it might surprise you.
Listen to the voices in your head.
This one is self-explanatory. Despite the smile you present to the world, pay attention to the still small voice inside and honor it. That's the best way to feel and eventually heal.
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What do you do to get in touch your inner self?
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Patia Braithwaite is a memoir and relationship writer. Check out her blog at www.menmyselfandgod.com