Five Things it Means When He Says He Wants Space

just yesterday my boyfriend txt me he needed sometime to think and to sort out things for a while, i dont what does it mean but it really hurt me a lot . need some advise does it he would break me.

well my bf just asked me for a break.its hard to stay away from him and i will try to be there for him as a friend. keeping my fingers crossed that he will find his way back to me.it is very painful and hard to deal with special after spending all the time we had together so its hard to do things on my own now.im still confused and trying to understand him...

my bf and i are in a long distance relationship and he just asked me for space. we are a half a country apart - isn't that space enough?! this all came about bc (amongst other things) i asked him if we could have one 20minute phone almost everyday. he's very busy, so he thought it was an unreasonable request. i just wish he told me more what he meant when he said he needed space. does that mean we are on an official break? or just that he needed a couple days to be away from the pressure i was putting on him? how do i ask when he finally calls me if he was faithful?

bc i don't know what he meant i'm preparing for a break up - and my heart is just exploding. if he calls me and acts like everything is fine i fear i'll be past the point of accepting that- bc i've already started the mending process.

i love him so much i just want everything to be ok.

My boyfriend asks for space we hardly see one another he works days I work nights all we have are the weekends really, he says Im becoming a bother. He wants to play his game in piece without my interferince...

I dnt understand how much more space he needs when we dnt spend that much time together. He says he does want to be with me he just wants space?????

My fiance sometimes tells me he needs time to himself. We live together so we spend a lot of time together. Although I am not thrilled about it, I trust him and (sometimes) I think it is a good idea. His needing time alone means of course he will be at the computer playing games or watch a football game or be alone at home a couple of hours while I am either at home doing something else or in class.
I have told him though that even though it hurts me a bit, I understand he needs to be alone, but I am a woman and get hurt. period.
Do I think he cheats or wants to break up with me? Nope...but still it annoys me.
I just think that each case is different and one should listen to ones own heart, when he is going to break up with you...99% of the time you could have seen it comming.

Guys arent the only ones to sometimes need space.

I feel like that all the time. I feel completely smothered if a guy I'm seeing is constantly in my space and every aspect of my life. It's suffocating.

However, usually when I tell someone "I need space..." it's because I'm trying to sort things out myself. I may be thinking that I want to end it, or I may just be having a bad week. Whatever the case may be, usually if I'm given some space, more often than not I realize it's just my brain being on overload.

I'm currently considering having that "I need space..." talk with someone, but frankly, I really do think it would be "the end" so to speak and I'm not sure I really want that

i KNOW...jANE? HOUSE ARREST AND PROBATION, THERES A WINNER

Girls, It is to easy to consume ourselfs with a man that we want. I want the thrill of the chase to be part of who and why our relationship is so strong. If we smother the guy with everything we want and need, how do we really know what he really wants besides SEX!
I had the "i need some space" talk and i am glad we did, 2 weeks later we were out togethor and some friends we met asked where we have been and if everything is OK! We both said " we are taking this slow!"
So now that othors have notied that we hav'nt been out togethor they want to know why! I think that was a real wake up call for us. We talk or text daily and we get to see each othor about twice a week and we still have the space we need!

7 yrs. ago I was told this by a boyfriend. He had a lot going on and wanted to have his free time to do as he pleased. This lasted 3 of the longest months of my life. Then he called late one drunken night to say he missed me. And we have been married for 3 yrs now :) Sometimes they need some space to find out exactly what you mean to them.

yea mine asked for space but not in so many words. 2 weeks without talking i packed his stuff up and broke up with him,not 2weeks later he was with someone else. I guess I did the right thing!

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Hey Jedd, you are correct, and love your comment. To the author, My boyfriend and i have been off and on for four years, one and a half strong and when we get in eachothers face and personal space too much, he needs to take a step back and he asks me for some space about once a year. He plays his wii or x-box everyday or chills with the guys for a while. He goes shopping by himself. He does things by himself. Both of us were never married, no kids, so our space means our independance that we are not ready to give up. But his space is NOT SEEING EACHOTHER EVERY DAY! No big deal. Now on my end, yes it WAS very hard to understand because i am that type of person that does not need space, and im new to the area, not knowing a soul but him. Men on the other hand love their space. Too many woman put too much thought into it and really, sometimes it is just nothing. They need to jump on their bikes and ride a while! If it means not to see eachother for a few weeks, well thats way different. And if hes distant when you talk, then question it. If he wasnt meeting your needs before he asked for space, then YOU take advantage of the time, and think about YOU. You are #1 anyway. The hell with him!!! Good luck all!

lEXI, THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN IS THEY REALIZE THEY DON'T WANT TO LIVE WITHOUT YOU!

I don't think giving some space is a bad thing. Sometimes you just wanna do some things on your own and that's very healthy to. You can get so easily lost as an individual in a relationship, it can be overwhelming. Some space to do your own thing to think or just do stuff you like gives something to talk about to each other and a chance to miss each other. Sometimes its a very good thing to show that you are with somebody because you want to, not because you need to. That you're still an independant individual. May be it's because I'm European but I do get the idea sometimes that the views on relationships is a bit different here. To me it can come across as a bit suffocating. everyone needs a bit of room to breathe.

i havent talked to my ex bf in a little more than 2 weeks. 1 month ago he told me he was annoyed from me so i gave him a little space and called him back around 6 days later & asked him if he needed more space, he said yes! 2 days later was my birthday.. he called me and asked me to go over..so i did, we ended up hooking up..right after he told me he couldnt be with me because he couldnt give me the attention i needed(since he had 2 jobs was on house arrest and probation)..its really hard not calling him(although i havent) i just want to talk to him again & get back with him..does he not want to be with me or is it that hes to busy??

i've been in a relationship for 3 years with a guy i thought was the one...we have so much in common, so many dreams we share and from what i thought a great love for each other...about a month ago he came home at 3:30 in the morning super drunk and going on about meeting some new group of people at his bar that he works at...i was at home worried, cause i was there with his kids and he had never came home so late....a couple of weeks ago, the shit hit the fan when a friend of mine told me she thought she saw him out with another girl while i was at home taking care of his kids...i confronted him and he told me there was no one else there...my friend was just drunk...a day later, i took a look at his phone and this whore (a girl he met that night he came home so late) he had been texting wrote him and told him she loved him...hello, who loves someone after 2 weeks??? and she said, i hope i dont ruin things with your fiance...well i didnt tell him about seeing the texts but i demanded to know whats up...he told me he needed space and that she was just someone easy to talk to...after a day of listening to him cry over me and tell me things would be okay and he wanted to remain friends forever and that he just needed a couple of months, i truely thought things would work out in the end and who knows they still might....i didnt kick him out, because i didnt want to accept the end and i didnt want to uproot his two kids who are already dealing with their parents nasty divorce....but now, two weeks later and him texting this girl he misses her and her texting about being naked and waiting for him to come over, i can assume its pretty much over...he doesnt look at me the same and last night he was wondering why i seemed upset...i told him i wasnt the one who gave up on our relationship when the going got tough and that i have feelings too...he cant just go around as though we are roommates and best friends when i know hes clearly thinking about someone else...hes doing a good job at stringing me along, calling and texting trying to keep me hanging on...but i dont want to wait anymore...today the anger is setting in and im glad ive been using this time to get my independence back...someday he'll regret what hes lost...a devoted lover, someone who loved his kids unconditionally and gave them all the support in the world, someone who loved him regardless of his faults...people like me dont come around often...

In my case i'm the idiot who up and left, now he's saying we should "take a break" and "think about what we really want" He said he'd call me in a couple of days....

maybe you should just give him space automatically once in a while to prevent him from asking. I hang out with my boyfriend every other day or so. We both need to space so I just leave him for a day or two then see him again. That way I'm preventing him from asking and I'm getting my space also without having to ask. And we are both fine and happy with the relationship. I'm not smothering him and around him all the time even though I would like to be haha.

yes, my boyfriend/fiance ask me for space. it's been almost a month now. he asks like he hates me, but i know deep down he's trying to be hard, i still love him with all my heart. i haven't done anything wrong to him or anything and i couldn't believe after 6 years, he needed space from someone you are suppose to marry this year. is it because he's afraid or is it because he's tired of being with me? i wish he would tell me the truth. if he's seeing someone else i can handle that part, but don't leave me in lingo wandering what i've done wrong, or if it's really over.

my bf likes to have time to himself because that's his personality. He ended up coming to see me the next day and hasn't left yet. but, tom. he wants to go back home. It's fine with me. I'd know if it was something else before he had to tell me.
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