Gender surrender: Are men today not well, man enough?

I know a woman who does everything and I mean everything around the house including home repairs,cooking, cleaning, paying the bills,taking the cars to get fixed,and laundry. Her husband is completely useless. He can't use the microwave or even an ATM.Her husband has a good job but he earns no more than she does. But he's a poodle.He has his suits drycleaned and shirts pressed but I believe she picks them up for him. I think she also initiates and does all the work during their couple of minutes of sex. I do think he mows the lawn on the riding mower occasionally. But he may be a macho man in some ways. He doesn't discuss his feelings and he isn't affectionate. Oh by the way, what is wrong with the kids helping out? The first time a kid learns to do laundry, cook, or iron a shirt should not be in college. I get that women love their children and husbands and want to take care of them, but crippling them is not doing them any favors. It doesn't help the next generation of men become anymore self-sufficient either. They shouldn't have to get married to find another mommmy.

Is it just me or has Shine been pretty preoccupied with this topic lately? This has got to be the third Shine article I've read about this in like 3 days. For a woman's blog, you're awfully preoccupied with masculinity.

We have nice, manly and funny aprons at dirtydishtowels.com. We have cute ones for the ladies too! Protect those nice clothes and have a little fun doing it.

my husband will fix our car cook me dinner dink a beer with his friend paint my toe nails watch a basketball game and have a good long cry at the end of atonment with me all in the same day, and none of this makes or doesn't make him a man. what makes hime a man is the fact the when our kids come crying to us he will hold them and when we are in trouble as a family in any way he will take care of us. a man is someone who will stand up for what is right and will take his responsibilty with a smile. and the fact that he is utterly devoted to me and our kids make him the manly-ist man in the world. so girls drop your standards and expectaions, if knowing how to fix a car is important to you then learn...enjoy who a man is as a person and of he is devoted to you, don't worry about the rest, you can hire a car mechanic or a repair person. drop the standards.

Yes! i think men are becoming way too feminine!!! and the bigger problem is when women come across a manly man, they think he's an ass**** because they do not know how to understand them.

i totally disagree with the comment of women being "slaves" in the house... someone needs to take care of them home, weather its the man or the woman. Both people need to contribute to the home, weather its cooking and cleaning or providing the money to pay the bills. Chores should be split as much as possible, but since most households no longer make enough money for one spouse to stay at home, the home is suffering. No one can do it all. Who said it's better for the kids for both people to work full time? the kids are at day care most of the time and no one is home raising them.. leading to a lot of societies problems. Plus, anyone who works a full time jobs knows how hard it is to keep a clean house all the time.... in fact, i wish i could be a housewife and stay home and take care of these things. i think there would be a lot less stress in people's relationships as well.

"If you need more proof that the blokes here are no Marlboro Men, get this: three quarters of them regularly wear an apron in the kitchen"

Oh my God, men are even wearing aprons in the kitchen!!

Guess what, we also wear goggles and earplugs when running a table saw. It's all protective gear, stupid. If you don't want to see me in an apron, I don't want to hear a peep out of you on laundry day about the cooking splatters on my shirt.

Idiots.

men are truely loosen there masculinity, and this is exactly what our feminin partners wanted, what they've been fighting for since creation. i beleive 80 percent of women are comfortable that men have lost there machones. in this day and age both gender make money and women are expected to contribute equally to domestic finance, how on earth can man not loos his machoness

What about men who are forced to be like that? My wife left me and my four year old for drugs. I'm dad, mom, I cook, clean, vaccuum, do the dishes, cut the grass, change the oil, fix the house, sew, iron and still find time to burp, fart and scratch my nuts! There's nothing wrong with having a feminine side and I do think it's bad that it takes something crappy in life for it to come out.

Leave the men alone!
They are not JUST instruments ya know!
Even if my partner doesnt speak to me during sex.
We need men-DAMN IT!
Young and stupid will do.
No talking.
Anybody wanna an omelette?
Motrin?

WHY IS THERE A DEFINITION FOR A MAN? strong, unemotional, has money, fixes everything, unfeminine. this is the mold of the man that society has come to accept. it sucks. we cant be feminine without being called gay, by friends (male and female), strangers, anybody. i tried on one of my girlfriends thongs yesterday, for the first time in my life. it was comfterble. and she is the only person in the world i can trust with that (this doesnt count because i dont know you, if youre reading this). shes the only one. i cant trust anybody, because of the way they will look at me. i just dont understand this world, this cant be the way God meant it to be.

I think it is cool, about men reaching out and feeling thier feminine side. It should not just be a women's job to cook, do laundry, pick up the kids, to iron and etc. Now if we think how things were done in the South in the 1950 and above, (women were the slave in the home) the male would work and earn a living and the woman would be the slave of the house. Women job back then and the south were; Wash dish, Wash and dress the kids, cook, iron clothes, get the mail, Make sure the news paper, make sure fetch thier slippers and always make sure that dinner is at the table when the man of the house comes home.

Now in the new age the male works and the female works. So things should be equal. So now the one that is in charge of the house are both man and women. If I had a nice suit on, I would wear a apron.

Sterotype (MAN) Yes, We are tough, We eat Raw meat, We don't cry, because we are strong and of course we do not dance.. Don't you think it is time for a change. Why should we be tough at our other conterparts, that doesn't make any sence. Raw meat can be bad for you health and I like things cooked. Don't hate it when we do not show are feeling to you, we are human too. Believe of not! Men were the very first belly dancers, because in middle east, the women are forbidden to show their body parts, So they would find young men and dress them in dress and etc and they would dance. But the truth about the hole thing is would you rather dance with your girlfriend or you man....That is the question that you have to ask yourself.

ha! hey, have you ever heard the song "I'm still a guy"-Brad Paisley??? good song! listen to it! It hits on all the points of a masculinity issue guys seem to be losing touch with! lol! its funny as all get out!

Bla bla bla more definitions for how men are to behave and overanalyzed. Good luck ladies, soon men will just not care what you think and tell you to go do things yourselves. You're obviously not worth it if you can't accept us for who we are, why should we return the favor?

Yeah, men these days are definitely too feminine for my cup of tea. It's not the asthetics, "metro-esk" attitude, or sterotypical male/female roles. It's that they don't have enough self-confidence; they have no sense of responsibility, a lack of respect and sense of honor. They expect everything to be handed to them, and blame the world for their problems instead of having a desire to change the problems of the world. A lot of men lack ambition, drive, the desire and ability to protect a woman. Men want the women in their lives that are their lovers to play the role of their mothers. A lot of men are unbalanced, lack perspective on life in general and lack respect for women and other men. Men like women are desensitized to sex and violence, and glorify and objectify it instead of keeping a sensible perspective on them which effects their attitude and changes their character. So yeah a lot of men are punks these days.

I guess it's an educational thing, before they used to teach a man not to cry or show his emotions in public coz "Men Don't Cry" nowadays a man can express his feeling freely.
and if he's a better cook than me well good for both of us.
women struggled to be equal to men and when they did they're not satisfied. Weird NO?

What defines a man or a woman? Why do you want to define it? Let people live the way they want to live. What do you achieve out of this survey other than sudden attention? Your survey resembles a highly 'feminist' mindset, where such groups only focus on criticizing the opposite gender rather than looking for their own inner peace and growth.

i feel sorry for you,,turnsmedusa,,
are you so old that you can't handle intelligent
conversation anymore?
perhaps your attitude is responsible for your old man
not wanting too talk to you!
perhaps you are just an insturment for him!!!
try going solo and talk to yourself!

That makes me kind of sad. My husband got a flat tire once when I was in the car, and *I* had to change the tire! He didn't even have a jack, so I had to walk to a gas station to get one. He said, "Usually, I just call AAA." Sad.

Gender Surrender?! HA! That was great, Mr. Brown! Couldn't agree more. I recall an American article that reported soldiers being reprimanded for writing testerone-driven, hostile remarks on bombs before they were dropped. OK, can the guy dropping the friggin' bomb be allowed to retain his pair? I'm completely opposed to war, but that's a clear illustration of the ridiculous extreme to which men are truly 'socially nutured' by the current era.

I wouldn't mind a man ironing (because I hate that part of laundry), however, I also prefer that my guy knows how to change a tire, work on the car, etc. I think household chores should be shared, but there are just some things a guy should know. I can give my car a tune-up and change the tires, as well, so I'm not being sexist. I also think a guy should be able to sew a button on as well.

What I don't want is a guy who shares my beauty products or cares more about he looks than I do.

There is a definite lack of "real men" out there, and by that I mean a guy who is confident, can take charge when he needs to and still can show his tender side when the need calls for it. However, for a guy to be a blubbering mess is public is just wrong somehow.

Yes, I know. What I want doesn't exist, but a girl can dream, can't she?