Going through a break-up? As anyone who's been there knows, it's important to have an arsenal of carefully chosen breakup songs at the ready to get through the cranky days and lonely nights that usher in the end of a relationship and the beginning of single life.
However, the problem with many of the "divorce songs" out there, which run the gamut of musical styles from country to soul to indie rock, is that they were written post-divorce, during the time that one looks back mournfully from the other side on the sad truth of a disastrous relationship. Sorry, but if you're currently in the midst of trying to extricate yourself from the hell of a broken marriage, that's just not gonna do it for you.
Don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't think there isn't a place for music about divorce itself in the divorce process; it's just that I've found the music that was most cathartic for me on all three sides of my divorce (pre, during, post) fell into two broad categories: songs that raised a middle finger to the relationship I was just in, and songs that gave me hope about finding someone better in the future.
So, I offer you now a list of the albums and tunes I've worn out in the last two years, broken down into categories based on your emotional needs. YOU'RE WELCOME.I'm angry, you jerk! songs:
MIA - Paper Planes
Ben Folds - Song for the Dumped
Cee Lo Green - "Forget" You
Alanis Morrisette - You Oughta Know
Pat Benatar - Love is a Battlefield
Barenaked Ladies - The Old Apartment
I wanna be happy! songs
Jason Mraz - I'm Yours
Jesse McCartney - Leavin (Please. Sometimes I think Jesse McCartney literally saved my life. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN, GUYS!)
Beyonce - Irreplaceable, Single Ladies (obvs)
Pink - So What
Kate Nash - Merry Happy (Apparently I need to get into Kate Nash further, because I just heard her song "d---- " for the first time and it's amazing.)
Sara Bareilles - Love Song, King of Anything
Estelle - American Boy
Corinne Bailey Rae - Put Your Records On
Feist - 1234
And I'm just getting started. For songs to get you through when you just want to bawl or be held, when you want to pine/luxuriate in pain, feel lost and/or need hope/inspiration, visit Babble's Strollerderby.
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