Have You Ever Dated a Guy with a Temper?

I am currently in a relationship with a person with a really bad temper. He usually somkes (herbs) to relax 2 to 3x's a day. He has hit me several times and always seems to turn it around and says I bring out the worst in. Last night he blew up on me for a friend who called my phone and it did get physical. He is very dependent on his mother and she tells him all the time to stay away from me. I am the victem and as of today I am out! Please anyone with words of advice give me your input...

I was married to a typically pretty quiet guy...until he got upset about something. Then he'd throw his shoes, the remote control, etc...watched them zoom past my head a couple times. He had/has a very hot temper. Not to mention, he destroyed my self-esteem with his words. I'm so thankful that my current husband treats me so incredibly well and truly loves me for me. I can't even imagine being in that type of situation again. Sometimes you gotta watch out for those quiet types too!

Yes. That's why he's my ex.

First they're nice, then they commit and you start seeing a little temper. Then they threaten to hit you, but don't. All of a sudden, one day, there is nothing stopping them, they hit you instead of refraining. Best to get out or get a kick ass temper and let them know you won't put up with that. Leaving is best!

I'm amazed at how many of you have been in a relationship with someone who not only has a bad temper, but he also acts out with physical violence.
I have been in this situation as well, and so have a few of my friends. There is a big difference between a strong man who will naturally become upset, as we all do, and a man that will snap your arm or put holes in your walls. I personaly think that guys who can't control their temper look like an oversized version of those toddlers you see throwing fit in the grocery store. Not hot.

I wish more men would recognize their abusive behavior (both physical and verbal) and simply walk away (sometimes for good) from someone that they supposedly care about. It's never cool to lose it and get violent over nothing as many of you suggest, but my guess is that some of the commenters aren't angels either :) Now, I'm not saying that any of them deserve to be in an abusive relationship or be controlled by a monster, but it often takes 2 to tango. For every action there is an equal an opposite reaction. If you become angry over something, take a deep breath and walk away with your DIGNITY intact, then call a friend.

Well my current guy has more anger than any of the other guys I have ever dated. He has never hit me but has gotten into fights with other guys when they have attacked his family. I never knew he was like that when I first met him. I thought wow this guy is a push over but as time went by I realized he was a tough cookie... He also works out alot and boxes.. I love that about him but I hated it at the same time... Ugh, however if I had to choose I would rather have a tough gentle guy instead of some whinning whimp that would let me get beat up!

I wouldn't advise anyone to date a guy with a bad temper, I dated one and turned around and married him. And the temper never calmed down or changed. I'm a mellow kind of girl and he was insecure, jealous and had a temper If I said or did the wrong thing they always take stuff out of context. Personally I say dont deal with bad tempers, insecurity, jealous types at all cuz in the end you'll regret it. I'd prefere a mellow type and kind hearted also has to respectable to me and women in general.

I am married to a man with a very bad temper.We dated a few months, then got married, then it started. We are now separated. He was always accusing me of cheating (wich I never have)never believed a word I said. His temper was like a bomb,if you said the wrong thing or were late from work;Kaboom. One day maybe he'll get help.

Due to my childhood past, I'm attracted to guys who are bullies and are abusive. So yes, I've seen the temper before..way more times then I want to.

I have and do not recommend it. Unless he is defending me from some crazy person, there is no need to let tempers flare to the point of screaming, bullying or throwing crap. I understand we all lose are tempers, but one boyfriend I had would literally chase down anyone who gave him a nasty look---he was truly crazy and dumping his ass was the best move I made in my entire life!

I attract jealous psychos!!! One was even a state police officer who i was married to. he would do crazy things to me, push me around, put me in choke holds, stalk me all the time. He would get so mad he would pour beer on me if he thought i was having too much fun. Once I called the police on him and one of his cop buddies showed up and ended up giving me the lecture!!!! I was disgusted! These kind of men should not get away with that kind of behavior!

oh my., a guy with a temper, maybe its just a mirror of me.i often met that kind of person.

My man has never hit any person but in anger he has hit the wall and left dents several times. Really the only thing he has ever done to me out of anger was to bitch at me about something he felt I wasnt do right.

I agree that there is a difference between a person with a temper and an person that has anger issues! David is a crazy somebody. I'm waiting on the next episode, and I thank God that she is on tv because he seems like someone that will not only knock you out, but make you choose between him and your family and any children that you have together. My vote is for Juan. (Hot Stuff!!!) What can I say? I have a thing for hispanic men :)

I wouldn't want to be with a man that had a bad temper or that was prone to violence. I'd prefer a man with a brain and class, not some barbarian.

i'm married to a man that has had is fair share of run ins with the law and have seen his vilent side. he is a very strong physical type that is very good to me but he can kick butt to. we have been toghter since 1988 and i would not trade him for anything. might add that since he's gotten older has slowed down considerably.

never have one and now i am married for 5 years with the "right guy".^_^

A friend of mine stuck his middle finger at a guy at a movie teather becuz he told us to huuuush...another time the same guy got upset becuz another guy ask him if he was my body guard...I think this might me signs of a guy with a temper...I wonder if he is or not?

every relationship I ever had was some sort of dysfunction, either lying cheaters, or hot head control freaks. that is why I am peacefully living single today. men are crazy and women are even crazier for dealing with their crazy. I know, I'm missing out on.... not really sure what I'm missing out on, if you are in bad company, you are better off, chil'n out with people who care. I don't know what man that does not have a temper, what I have a problem with is men who think they don't and continue to abuse, control and keep women and children in constant fear. who needs it. just came out of a relationship that was controlling, he was all nicey nice, gifts, meeting his mom & family and college buds, then I'd say something, and there goes a hole in the wall because I did not agree with what he was saying, this went on for years. another man I dated, control freak right out the gate, started buying me all kinds of expensive shit, car, roses everyday til valenties day, then a diamond ring, trip to disney world, then BAM, one disagreement, it was like, give me the keys to the car, the ring, bla,bla,bla, that is why til this day, I hate people who use their money as a weapon or a method to trap you into their house of cards. No love lost in any of IT. Thank God, I made it out alive and my identity in tact. May God bless those who are struggling with that exchange.