A year or so ago, I told a guy I'd been casually dating that I was moving to California. I wasn't, but I wanted to get out of the situation we were in (a protracted friends with benefits thing) and I knew that I wouldn't be able to quit him cold turkey unless there were actual (imaginary) miles separating us.
He and I didn't have mutual friends, so it was actually a pretty easy lie to carry out. But I still do sometimes think about him and was actually almost considering calling him the other night, when I was feeling bored and lonely and caught in playing a protracted game of what-if with myself.
But I didn't contact him. And I was surprised when I received a text from him last night. He said he'd be in Santa Monica for the next six weeks and asked if I'd meet him.
I paused. And then I texted him back. Hi. I've been thinking about you. Still (and the reason why I have not been in contact with you even though I do think of you) I do not think it would be a good idea to meet up. There is just too much history and confusion there for me. I wish you the best of luck and hope you are happy.
Meanwhile, he was probably a grand total of three miles away from my apartment. We continued to text back and forth, and I found myself sort of having feelings resurface for him. Except I know for so many reasons (I want something more than something casual) I simply cannot tell him I lied and start over. But it was sort of a blast from the pas to text with him.
And that made me feel awful in an oh my goodness, did I ruin my dating karma? type of way.
Make me feel better by telling me the worst lie you've told a date?
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