Healthy Arguments = Good Marriages---6 Rules for Arguing
It is totally pointless arguing about anything your partner cannot change (eg your relationship with your mother, your partners snoring or because you think their boss is better looking than you are). These arguments are fighting for the sake of it, consider whether these are issues you are willing to lose your partner over, because if you argue constantly about such issues it may just come to that. Be very aware of what is causing you to fight, money is the number one reason couples argue but the fights may be about the loo seat being left up or mud on the carpet. Money concerns cause underlying stress that can manifest in couples arguing over the silliest things. If you find yourselves arguing regularly consider whether the fights are really about money worries and if so it is time to sit down quietly and produce a manageable household budget, if necessary get help with this. Only start an argument if there is an issue that can be resolved.
Here's the bottom line: every relationship has issues. It's just a matter of how you deal with them.
You might think your friends who are constantly yelling or complaining are on the verge of breaking up but in fact, the number one predictor of divorce is the avoidance of conflict.
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Hey, nobody likes conflict.
Healthy marriages have healthy arguments.
Conflict resolution is the most important skill for couples to learn.
Couples counseling can teach those skills. What if we considered having a touchy conversation so we never get to conflict? Yet most of us, avoid. Never the right time.
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Here are 6 rules for healthy arguments in a relationship:
