By Shallon Lester, Glamour magazine
It's not the wisest dating strategy, but my friends and I love making up stories to tell the guys we meet at bars. We'll pretend that we're flight attendants from Texas, sea turtle experts, circus performers-you name it. But last weekend, I got a major taste of my own medicine, and it SUCKED.
My friend Amber and I just spent a week in Miami for a little vacay, and we met a super-cute group of guys from Atlanta. They explained that the trip was supposed to be a bachelor party for their friend Chaz, but he had just called off the wedding after he found his girlfriend cheating.
Amber and I gasped and wailed, ordering a round of shots for poor, jilted Chaz and his oh-so-supportive friends.
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I hit it off with one guy, Pete, and all of us ended up hanging out for the next few days. They were a completely awesome crew, even sullen little Chaz. Hoping to make him feel a little less alone, I ended up pouring my heart out to him about how my beloved ex cheated on me too, which isn't something I tell very many people. He nodded miserably, and I gave him a big hug and promised that things would get better eventually.
Cut to yesterday: I was texting with Pete, who is coming to visit next weekend, and here's what I found out...
"Oh, BTW, that whole Chaz/cheating thing was totally made up," he wrote. "He's not that outgoing and we thought that lie might help him meet girls. LOL!"
LOL? LOL?! I was FURIOUS.
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"Wait, he wasn't engaged or anything?"
"Nope, haha! I wanted to tell you, but I couldn't-bro code."
Bro code? I typed out an email explaining how violated I felt after telling Chaz all about my own cheating episode and how hurtful it was to be lied to...and then, I pressed delete. This was karma teaching me a big ol' lesson: no one likes to be the butt of a joke, even if it is "all in good fun."
So from here on out, I pledge to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Do you ever tell guys little white lies? Has it ever backfired? Have you ever revealed the truth after you got to know a guy? Spill!
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