How to Hit on a Guy

I agree that women should approach men more often rather than waiting on the guy all of the time. I find that the only time that women have hit on me first is after they haven't been approached in a while so that in itself puts them ina desparate place. That is not to say that just because a woman approaches a man first , she is desparate, That's not true however some women wait until they are in a desparate state of mind before they decided to go against the grain and be the first to approach the man.
Kelly: Just because you have always been told that guys are the hunters and women are the huntees so to speak doesn't mean that it is true in this day and age.
Giz: i think that the more you do it the stronger you get and the easier it becomes. That has been my experience as a man and I am sure that every man alive has experience some rejection from women cruel or otherwise(I certainly have). I am very flattered when women approach me and if I am interested I ussually return the flirting in full followed up by a request for your phone #.

These tricks are a great pick up game very popular among guys. I have used this and it is very powerful if done correctly. For the insult part for example its only used on someone who is out of your league. If you joke about the looks of an ugly guy he will get offended but the same joke wont have the same effect on a handsome and confident guy. Instead making him self conscious it will simply get him off his high horse and make him closer to your level so to speak.

But one thing is important is that this is nothing but a trick. I dont like playing games myself. I prefer direct take it or leave it approach. Just simply go up to a guy, make a comment or ask a question, introduce yourself and start from there. No games. If he isnt interested then at least you tried, and if he is interested then the pride is yours.

Let's see... to summarize:
Buy him something.
Insult him
Question him
Grab him
Leave
Sounds real good ladies! Good luck with that LOL

From a guy, good tips if not taken to extremes. Remember we like ladies (ladies being a keyword) who know who they are and respect themselves and respect us as well. We don’t like flighty girls.

Yes, Django, you're right-I DO prefer the traditional roles. To each his/her own, though. I don't think there is necessarily a right or wrong on this.

I have a question for the "progressives" on this issue. When the woman asks a man out on a date, I suppose she is naturally expected to pick up the tab? Are there any women on this post who do that or would do that? And are there any men who have been on the receiving end? I'm asking out of curiosity. Have we really come that far?

Willis, I don't quite agree with you on that one. By walking away, she's giving a man a chance to be a man about the situation-IF he's interested and he's available. Plus, it saves HER a lot of potential embarrassment from being rejected if he's not or finding out he's really married or whatever.

To me, a woman who comes on too strong comes accross as desperate (a big turnoff) or at the very least, likely to be way too clingy. Plus, by taking over the man's traditional role of doing the "chasing" she's setting herself up to be used out of convenience and not necessarily genuine attraction. I like the walk-away approach better because if I'm available, have the time and am interested in her, I WILL go find her so I can let her know. At the very least, I'd be flattered by the attention and appreciate the brief conversation.

Ladies, here's a protip for you: Any decent guy will get turned off on the "walk away" part of this article. It's just a game, and I don't want a woman who is going to play games with me. Just be straight up, there's nothing wrong with that, and is honestly far more attractive.

Think of it this way "Hey, I'm interested in you, but I'm going to leave now, and if you don't follow me, then we're done"

What? And before you go "I like a man with confidence" etc, after you approach him first, it's not about confidence, it's about desperation.

Yes I realize I'm going a bit overboard with this, but it's to make a point: Walking away is stupid. Don't do it.

DAVID G, you hit the nail right on the head. I am a hunter for the most part. But if a girl comes up to me, I will be MUCH more interested in her than any girls I walk up to. Mainly, because that takes A HELLUVA LOT of courage to do for most females. Only 1 girl that walked up to me was my type though but she moved to another state as soon as I started to get to know her. That sucked but we move on and keep living life. And please people, never be afraid of rejection. I've been told "no" by my parents more than any girl could possibly say it.

jeanine

insults definitely do work as long as they are playful, but if the physcial attraction isn't there immeidately nothing will work

I dont know. I've always wanted to try something like that but I'm too shy and now well I found the man of my dreams so I dont need to do that anymore. lol!!

These are really good tips! Kelly, following these tips closely doesn't really put you in the role of the pursuer (not really). You're merely taking the pressure off for a guy you would like to get to know a little better. You're also giving him a little glimpse of your personality and charm.

Asking for HIS number or asking HIM out (in my book), makes you the purser. Following these tips would be VERY flattering to any gentleman. If he's interested and available, he'll do the pursuing after this treatment. Trust me on that one. LOL.

Mims, I think either you're reading something into this that's just not there or you're completly missing the point. The idea is simply to express interest in a flirty (not flighty) kind of way.

great advice, i strongly suggest women take notes

if women start approaching like guys always have, lonliness will become a rarity

imagine how many opportunities you ladies have missed out on because you waited for a certain guy to come to you

you snooze, you lose

as a guy this is great advice for women. Although I disagree that most guys consider themselves masters. My friends are horrible. I'm only decent.

Is this why men are always rude to me? Well, maybe I'm socially awkward, but it doesn't work on me. I just tell them to go frick themselves.

no pressure... there shouldnt be :))

Guys are generally just as afraid of rejection as women are and suffer the same risks of rudeness as any woman would. But just as Rick said, whether it's a man or a woman being on the receiving end of the rudeness-you've just hit on the wrong one. It is terribly hurtful, but in the end, it makes you stronger and perhaps more wary. No man or woman should let one person's rude behavior destroy you, though.

Daz: Please, I do this all of the time and so do my female friends... Well, some of it. I don't pick up guys at bars or the gym. I just think that's tacky and ill-fated. I like meeting guys (or people in general) in social situations where a common interest is shared. The gym is not meant to be social, and the points of interest at bars are typically drinking and picking up someone to have a drunken hookup with later... not exactly the common ground I'm looking for. Otherwise, this is just how people interact in adult, social situations where they're interested in learning more about a person.

Giz40: I don't try to meet girls at the gym or at bars either. I agree with you there. I think it's great that you and your friends go up to guys and make the first move, but I do think that you are definitely in the minority of women in that aspect.

From my experience, as a guy, all the girls I've met and talked to are very reluctant to make the first move. I understand that it has always been the guy's job to do so, but in today's modern age (with women being so much more independent than they used to be), I question if that should still be the case (in the majority of instances). I'm all for making the first move, if I feel like I have to, but it is a very stressful thing to do and I was merely wondering why more women don't make the first move and go talk to a guy that catches their eye.

P.S. I am NOT saying that it should be the woman's job to make the first move. Just thought I'd nip that one before it got started.

It's 2010 - that "men are hunters" stuff went out years ago.

There are men who still only want to be the pursuer, but they're not the kind of guys you want to be with anyway. If they pursue all the time, they get all the control, the power and they'll pursue others all the time. It may save women from taking risks, to hang back and let men approach them, but what a bad deal in the long run. :)

Notice all the men on here, myself included, saying YES, YES, YES. Women, please approach us. The more equal this is the easier it is for everyone. I am thrilled when a woman approaches me. Doesn't mean I'll always want to go out with them, but at least the chance is there. Same is true when I approach a woman.

You can't hit a homerun if you never step to the plate.

Or to put it more simply: women, would you like equal pay, equal rights? Then start asking men out. They are all related. Plus everyone benefits, including men.

Rick Cain: You are correct; however, it can still be very hurtful or embarrassing to a woman who struggles with her self confidence or self image, and most of us do. I don't let the past experiences get in my way (too much), but that's not to say that someone else won't.