Some bad news: Your boyfriend is more likely to cheat with a coworker than with any other chick. Here's how to keep it from happening- and deal with it if you catch him in the act.
1. ID Your Biggest Threat
Yeah, it sucks but being hot won't keep him from hooking up with other women. You may think that blond bombshell at the front desk has Man Stealer written all over her face, but the chick you least expect could be the real danger to your relationship. "She could simply have some quality that plays to your man's weaknesses or boosts his ego," says Susan K. Perry, PhD, author of Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Stay That Way. Translation: She may not necessarily be a gorgeous vixen. Some suspicious chicks: "Women working on long-term projects with him or who have cell-phone or pager access to him during off-hours," says Gratch. "Also, pay attention when a coworker invites him to nonwork functions, especially if he goes without you." That being said, try not to be paranoid about every woman that crosses his path - just keep your eyes open. Find out why guys cheat on hot women. Once you have the enemy in your crosshairs, you don't need to attack. One strategy she might use to screw you over is making comments to him like "Aren't you annoyed that she checks up on you all the time?" Stay cool and confident, and she'll have no ammo to use against you.
2. Know His Business
Sure, it may get boring when he goes on and on about his pain-in-the-ass boss or other people he works with, but if he can't talk to you about the workplace highs and lows, he may open up to someone who understands all the pressure he's under. "The more you know, the more he can share with you and the less likely he'll be to confide in his attractive coworker," says Don-David Lusterman, PhD, author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide. To come across as genuinely interested (rather than annoyingly nosy), ask specific questions that address how he handled certain tasks or dealt with a difficult higher-up.
3. Stay on His Mind 24-7
Unfortunately, if your guy travels a lot for business, you have a whole other set of concerns. "People are more likely to be unfaithful out of their normal surroundings," says Lusterman. "Loneliness plays a part, but also, the sex is more anonymous, so there's less chance of getting caught." Two words: Tiger Woods. But he's not the only famous cheater. In other words, they cheat just because they can. To keep him from straying while on the road, send him off feeling fantastic about your relationship. "Save up some fun, novel sex ideas and try them out the night before his trip to leave a sexy lasting impression," suggests Perry. And avoid getting into any last-minute fights or disagreements; he'll leave with a bad taste in his mouth and a "screw her" attitude. "That last, unflattering image might be the one that comes to mind when someone seductive enters the picture," Perry warns. In other words, he won't feel as badly about boinking some other chick. While your guy's away, agree to chat once every day or so (you might even want to engage in some phone sex to get him aching for you). When he knows he's going to be touching base, even if it's just to say good night, it will reinforce his sense of responsibility - and commitment - to you.
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