I want sex more than he does

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my husband is 12 years older than I am. we have a very satisfying sex life. He works nights and sleeps all day. He is lucky to have a full day off work. I accept the fact that he is tired when he gets home, and that one day he is off is usually spent in bed. So ladies, TALK to your spouse and let him know you are feeling fustrated! Dont just assume its his fault. Listen to his reasons.

I personally don't think it's normal,the feeling & attraction between him & you is wrong,I am like yourself,I think it's a massive plus point in a relationship,especially if you're willing to keep it afloat,keep ticking girl.I like your style,it's annoying when there's only 1 of you trying hard (pardon the expression),do everything in your power to maintain your drive,if things don't change-bin him & call me,good luck.

I agree, I feel like my man is extemely lucky to have a girl that wants sex all the time. I'm 6 ft blonde, grt body and funny. I love life but sometimes it really does hurt my feeling that he doesn't seem to chase me as much as I chase him! We have talked about it and here is what he said, "baby, you are so sexy to me and I want you all the time, I love making love to you, I'm just tired and stressed, since our move, and my change in position at my job I am under alot of stress. Please be patient with me, I will do better chasing you! I love you" See, so ladies, talk to your man in a gentle way and you might be surprised at his response. Our guys have alot of responsibility on them and they truly are sensitive to meeting the needs of the family! We are doing better now...I still want it more but its all good, cuz he never says no!

Um, reverse the genders and the advice columnist would never dream of assuming that the problem MUST lie with the person who is perfectly satisfied with less sex.

Nowhere did the advice columnist suggest that perhaps the wife needs to evaluate her demands and be more understanding if, indeed, her husband is satisfied with once-a-month sex. It seems to me that I've seen studies where such frequency is within the "normal" range for certain age groups, and we have no idea how old the couple is. The entire focus of the response is that there is a problem solely because the wife feels dissatisfied. The fact that the husband may feel dissatisfied with sex "a few times a week" (which would likely mean most days of the week) is of no import -- according to the advice columnist, of course it's the husband who is the problem.

Kindly keep this advice in mind when a similar question comes from a man and the genders are reversed because us testosterone-driven creatures are usually the ones wanting more. It seems we are constanly told by people such as this advice columnist that we need to be less selfish, more understanding. No matter what, you see, WE are the problem.

And you all wonder why we don't take women seriously when it comes to relationship advice?

Face it ladies, guys lose interest over time. A small % are horn dogs all the time, but who wants that :/

Sounds like he's getting a little something on the side...

I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and knew him for over 4 yrs before we began dating. I feel bad that I would love it all the time and I don't think my need it going to slow down any time soon. He seems okay with even once a week at times. This has just been frustrating me.

Wow, Ms. idigw do you have some issues or what? The advice column clearly adopted a knee jerk reaction and for reasons unfathomable to me, cast all the "blame" on the person who wants sex less by focusing exclusively on his potential "problems." You then make the breathtaking, unwarranted leap to suggest that if not addressed, this may lead to infedelity.

Since men typically want sex more than women (sorry, ladies -- it's that thing called testosterone), putting your generalized assertion into practice means that women typically should be blamed for men's infedelity for not wanting sex as much as their partners.

Trust me, Ms. idigw, there are innumerable guys (and I am sure some women) who would agree with your victim blaming. I absolutley, positively don't agree with it as a general assertion. Marriage is a two-way street, and the "right" amount of sex varies with the couple and the circumstances. It is silly, and gender divisive, to automatically cast blame on the party that wants sex less. My point was simply that not since the 1950s have I seen an advice columnist -- geared to women at least -- automatically cast blame on the person that wants sex less, which is usually (but not always) the woman. If you ar for victim blaming, Ms. idigw, wow, I'd say you do have serious issues.

This question hits really close to home lol, I went through this exact same thing and I started nagging and complaining which only made it worse. With 7 kids and his work which takes him away from home weeks at a time I started to feel as if he was cheating but after I finally stopped hounding him and started listening it got way better! I realized it wasn't just him it was "us" and started from there. I was stressed with the kids and my home business and he was stressed with his work etc. Talk about ironic I sell adult toys which you think would make that type of problem non existent lol. But with 13 years and still going strong I'd suggest talking, and listening and of course yes handling some of it yourself :) No problem with self satisfaction and mabey even try seduction to spice it up. No matter how long the relationship people do get bored, it would be like eating the same meal every day... who wants that? Plus keep in mind sex isn't the only part of a relationship nor the most important.

hi i dont get it enuff either i want it 3 times a day lucky if i get it twice a week. all these men need to man up!and start pleasing there
women cause its pretty pathetic if ya gotta do it ur self.
so get off the couches put down the video controllers and start giving us women what we need

I am in almost the same situation as you, 4 year relationship & marriage. MY HUSBAND COULD CARE LESS ABOUT SEX. He does jack off in the morning, so I don't think he's cheating.

Now he does have stressful job, but so do I! I'm still horny though.! I know he also looks at online porn, so I started doing it to, sort of to get back at him and make myself feel better. I did buy the mac daddy of all vibrators and that's cool, but I think the lack of emotional connection is what is the most hurtful.

Everything else is great in the marriage. Some of my married friend talk about all the sex they have with their husbands and it makes me feel bad. Are there any guys out there who can explain this odd male behavior? I thought men were supposed to think about sex every 3 minutes.

By the way, just to give you an idea of my physical looks, I would rate myself a 9 out of 10. Not overweight and I am young.

Tell him you will give him a blowjob anytime you want sex and watch his dsire increase!

How many of you have noticed that your husband/partner is usually more amorous in the morning than in the evening? How many of you have wondered that, once spent, he rolls over and falls asleep? How many of you are being just plain selfish?

I'm not trying to insult you, honestly. But put yourself in your partner's shoes. Does he work hard at a job that is mentally or physically draining? He may simply be too exhausted to give you want you want in the evening. On the other hand, he's fresh and lively in the morning and guess who's not interested now?

I won't deny that 'getting a little' away from home is possible; but that doesn't mean that it's likely either. Rather, look at your relationship and how much the two of you really spend time together. Not just sitting at the TV after dinner and then going to bed. Not just you at the computer or doing housework while your partner sits or works in some other part of the house. Honestly, just jumping in bed and expecting your partner to perform on command is downright silly!

Sometimes he has to be teased into play by a strong musical beat and a saucy dance. Sometimes maybe it's better to actually respect his desires and play when HE feels like it. Marriage and sex is a two-way street that needs both partners to work together. Pay attention to him and he'll begin paying attention to you. Isn't that what brought you two together in the first place?

im 63my husband is 42 i love it we are perfect im a hot old moma and he's a hot baby it is wonderful.

Have you considered a possibility that you may be getting ugly and big (aka fat)?
Ugliness is no1 cause of mens erectile dysfunction and reduced sex drive.

Also, just wanted to point out, why are are you so obsessed with sex?? Your man works spends energy bringing you the money and all you think is pleasuring yourself. Do not be selfish. Give him a break.

is it not interesting how women talk about guys continuously thinking of sex, but in reality I see female readers are so thinking here is sex sex sex.

Anyway, here is the recipe for you.
1) cook him a good dinner (meat is a must!!)
2) do not push him into sex. Control your elevated libido.
3) start exercising and none of that diet BS
4) wait for a month

im married for almost 21yrs....and still hot and sexy,but my husband doesn't want to have sex everyday like we used to have before,just found out his interest in sex starting to get low,in my part as i getting older i become more hot in sex..what i did was i just wait him to ask me to make love with him..but i masturbate evreytime i feel like having sex and he's not aware that im doing it.

I feel as if a lot of things were left out in the description. Some points here are valid though about the changes in lifestyle. If either person is working with a new amount of stress in their life that could change things.

One thing that wasn't mentioned was a self evaluation. Have you gained a lot of extra weight? 20+ pounds? I know that you both love each other and would probably not mention it but gaining alot of weight can be an issue.

I actually have this problem in my relationship we are fairly young (27f and 32m) I have remained about the same weight since we started dating besides the normal gain of 5 -10 and then loss of that same weight over the holiday season. Although, in Jan I started a new routine workout group and have been making alot of great progress. The only problem with this being that I would like to have even more sex now then before and I was always the one who wanted more anyway.

I was hoping this article might have some insight for me but it doesn't look like it. I usually chalk up his smaller drive to his work stress/hours, his unhealthily diet, and lack of exercise. He has actually probably put on about 30+ pounds since we met about 3 years ago. But I am still insanely attracted to him.

I saw one above comment about offering a mouth hug above and laughed. Not an issue from me to him, as I tend to enjoy that just as much, but he isn't really a returner of the favor in that way. Never has been.

Everything else in our relationship is so wonderful that I have worked with myself to getting used to having sex about once a month.

it could be he has simply lost interest in her sexually

do you want to have sex