If you could say anything to a former flame, what would it be? I miss you? Thank you? How could you?
My most serious ex (read: we dated for two years, and I practically lived at his apartment) and I have recently started to talk over IM more, so this is a topic I've been thinking a lot about.
I ended our relationship pretty abruptly - sorta grabbed my things and stormed out one morning there - so, many things went unsaid. It's two and a half years later now, we're both seeing new people, and I think we both have more perspective. He asked me if I wanted to get a drink with him this week, and I agreed, but I'm wondering how the conversation will go. Will we apologize to each other? Reminisce? Rehash old arguments?
In his new book, Dear Old Love, Andy Selsberg compiled people's sentimental, indignant, outrageous - and anonymous - notes to former crushes and loves. Here are some potent snippets:
"You are the only person I ever enjoyed kissing."
"'I love you' doesn't count if you can only say it in email."
"I'm consoled by the fact that ... you will have very hairy children."
"You are a gigantic ass. And not the good kind of gigantic ass, like my ass."
"I don't care that you miss my dog. When you cheated on me, you cheated on him, too."
"I'm so glad it didn't work out the way I wanted it to."
I don't think I'll be saying any of those things to his face (although, who knows what will happen after two cocktails), but it's fun to think about what I might tell him in an anonymous note.
How about you? What would you say to an ex? Say it "anonymously" here in the comments!
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