Informal breakups: E-mail, text and Twitter

Was dumped in an email, but at least he let me know what his deal was in no uncertain terms. Better to have an informal breakup than a coward who just stops calling.

Think that whatever form the dumping takes, it should at least be done privately via email or text. It's impersonal yes, but not as bad as public humiliation on twitter- that's just unecessarily cruel.

Yes, I feel a person deserve more than a text because that's the coward way out for anyone and plus it's not fair to the other person. have a heart and if you have one use it.

Well, if you have no reason to break up with someone that way then yes, I would say it's cowardly. However, if it's a situation where you feel danger is lurking, then by all means, you have a right to make sure you're safe. I broke up with my ex fiance over the phone, along with telling him that if he ever showed up where I live again, he was being watched. I still moved though because my ex was a very scary man. There was that fear that he'd show up and kill me and so I kept knives all over the house, in my car and was highly vigilant before I was able to. Even though it's been a long time since I broke it off with him, I still watch my back.

I agree with Amanda about texting if you feel in danger but... I'm not a violent person, but i would totally want to RIP THE BALLS off a guy for breaking up via text or twitter. (its clear he wasnt using them anyway)

So could a sheer gutless act from a former mate envoke violence in an otherwise calm and levelheaded person?

I think it would.

Show some respect and break it off face to face.

Depends on the individual situation. Personally, I believe in breaking it off in person, but there are situations where you have to be careful in that - the emotionally unstable, abusive/violent, etc. The twitter route however is childish, is it really necessary to make public that kind of personal business? But then again, many who use twitter are doing it out of a lack of self-esteem/self-worth (have to justify themselves by trying to get people interested in even the most boring details of their lives).

Now people are breaking up via Twitter? Good god. And to think people like this are breeding and bringing up the next generation to be just as gutless as they are.

well my fiancee broke up with me by email, though he is in Iraq, so i understand he couldn't do it face to face, but at least a phone call would have been nice...i deserved better!

It should at the VERY least be over the phone. If it was never serious then phone is ok. If there was any degree of seriousness then it should be face to face if possible.

My partner of 5 yrs (we are 38 ) broke up with me on a Saturday, before he was sposed to be here via text. Just not working, please dont feel bad. 5 yrs? WTF There is a reason because he didnt want to see me cry or answer any questions, He had just been over on Thursday had great time and borrowed money prior to leaving. Im I crazy, but I junst wont answers.

ok.. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 15 months by text. BUT i had good reason to. he never ever spends the night, i still havent met his mom who he lives with and he only lives 15 minutes away. it has been 9 days since he has came to see me. he has been "working late" anyway, he hasnt been coming to see me that much for the last 6 months. so he called, i was trying to express my feelings and was getting to a point of saying i was ending it, but he HUNG UP ON ME! yeah so i just text him and said ' i have had enough, i cant take it anymore, i love you, but im done"!!! so in my situation it had to be done, otherwise i agree, everyone deserves the respect of sitting down face to face.

had this happen to me once by text and i thought it was the most dispicable thing anyone has ever done if you have enough guts and class to ask someone out then have enough guts to tell them goodbye in person.

Wake up! I think it is better to do it over the phone, fly a banner in the sky, myspace, whatever.....Life is to precious to lose it over a sick azzzzzzzzzzzz! Steve Mcnair would be alive today if he used the damn phone.

i agree it shows a lack of respect to a person. I was dumped via text message and it shows a complete lack of respect and shows how spineless this person is in life. The person avoided my calls so i texted back and said fine finish this like a coward. I should have expected it she cheated on me after i just took her on an all paid expense trip and this was my reward. the funny thing i have left it in the past and her previous relationship her ex had a restraining order and i am the one dumped and who spoiled her and treated her like a queen. go figure

Well if you you dont know how the other person will react,or you feel
your life is in danger,then I dont see anything wrong with breaking up
over the phone or a text message.Sometimes its best not to breakup in
person.

I myself, think that it is absolutely ridiculous to break up via text or twitter. It shows how cowardly a person is, and there is never closure which is the biggest reason why I dont like it: however, we are in the 21st century and that is what the world has come to. It may not be right, it may be cowardly, but it is also the downfall that comes along with technology. People of the older generations call out my generation because we can get in contact with the person through a cell phone and no longer had to through a land line. Times change, and it is what this country has come to.

How about the ones who just sorta disappear on ya, then months later e-mail you and want to tell you how ashamed they are for doing what they did? In my mind that's a true coward.

even if he/she were a complete asshole..it's so disrespectful...

I always try to have some class. Breaking up with someone in a text or e-mail is far from having any class yourself. Sure it does suck to do it in person but, it is the less rude way of doing it. I dated a girl a few month ago that was eight years younger than me. She would text when she should have called and broke things off with me in a text message. It not that we were together long only a few weeks it just the principal of it that pissed me off. By doing this by text shows you have no respect for that person and you never did.

I think if you're in a relationship with someone, then you should have the guts to verbally say it's over. If it's a serious relationship, then it definitely should be done in person, but even if it wasn't that serious, it still should be done at least over the phone. It would be so cold and impersonal to break things off over an email or text, and I HATE when someone just stops talking to you. It tells us nothing about what went wrong.