My husband of three years and I separated six months ago. After a lot of debate, I've decided to start dating again. We won't technically be divorced until New Jersey tells us we are, so is it wrong for me to put myself out there? - A.J., 32, Freehold, NJ
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It's not wrong if you're upfront about your situation. If you meet someone you like, you owe it to him to let him know that you're separated but not divorced. This gives him the chance to decide whether he wants to continue seeing you. Even if you feel 100-percent certain that the divorce will happen, the other person has to decide for himself if he's comfortable with that.
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As for your own mental state, keep the debate going. You may start dating and think, Wait, maybe I'm not ready for this. You can change your mind. Almost all of life's big transitions involve three steps forward and two steps back. Keep this in mind as you start to seek and enjoy new company.
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Karen Karbo is an award-winning writer and author of The Gospel According to Coco Chanel: Life Lessons from the World's Most Elegant Woman. She's also a mom, a writing teacher, and a horse owner. Check out more advice from Karen.
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