Q: I'm a lawyer and my husband works as a freelance musician. I've started to resent being the breadwinner. What should I do?
A: I assume you knew you were marrying a man without a steady income, so you need to explore why these feelings have surfaced now. Even if you felt prepared for the arrangement, it's possible that you're feeling let down by the reality of your situation. Maybe you wish there were more equality in the earning department. And that's OK. What's not OK is withholding your feelings, so tell your husband what's on your mind. Try saying, "I've been thinking about the way we deal with money, and I feel uncomfortable with how things are now. I want to talk about how I'm feeling and get your perspective." Expressing yourself doesn't mean your partner has to switch careers; it's simply the first step toward getting a dialogue going. That way, you can clear the air and work on finding a solution together.
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