Did your relationship make it past St. Patrick's Day?
By James Lane for BounceBack.com
As we all witnessed last week, St. Patrick's Day is one of the biggest holidays for drinking and partying, but it also marks the end of the holiday season. John Mayer seems to think it marks the end of something else, as evidenced by his song St. Patrick's Day... the time when relationships that started last fall either make it - or break it.
If you have heard the song, you know the theme. If not, here's a sample of the lyrics: No way November will see our goodbye/When it comes to December it's obvious why/No one wants to be alone at Christmas time/And come January we're frozen inside/Making new resolutions a hundred times/February, won't you be my valentine? /And we'll both be safe 'til St. Patrick's Day.
We're sure that this is how some of us are feeling: that meeting someone in November, at the cusp of the holiday season, is amazing. You have someone to snuggle up with during the cold winter nights (and mornings), someone to buy Christmas gifts for, someone to kiss on New Year's Eve, and a definite date on Valentine's Day.
But once these holidays have come and gone, do we sometimes feel that once the pressure is off, the relationship should be too? Is St. Patrick's Day really more of a deadline for couples to assess their relationships post-holidays and either stick it out or call it quits? Quite possibly, since there is a song about it.
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So, the question is, how do we rekindle a relationship that was consumed by so much of the holiday season? Perhaps taking a trip together or spending a long weekend away will help you get back into the swing of things and find the real foundation of your relationship. Before you know it, the summer begins and a whole new list of holidays and events can carry you through without really knowing if this is a relationship that's right for you.
However, thinking a relationship is over because there is nothing to celebrate is ridiculous, because each and every day you can celebrate each other. Celebrate the small things that only the two of you can share, instead of a nationwide holiday. We know it was easy and convenient the past few months when the two of you were so busy with something big to look forward to, but hopefully those past few months built a strong foundation for a relationship.
And in some instances, maybe the holidays were the only reason the two of you were together, and soon after St. Patrick's Day, you will realize that you were only hanging onto one another for the emotional support to get through the cold. Take this time now to reevaluate just what the reasons are for being in this relationship, and hopefully by the end of March you will have the answer to whether you two should still be together.
Are you in a "St. Patrick's Day" romance? Do you think it will continue, or is it time to move on?
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