Chris Clinton Feel like you're in a relationship with your partner and family at the same time? We've been there. Here's how to spot it and stop it before it causes some serious damage.
By Ariel Nagi
Schedule time to catch up with them
When it seems like they always want to know what is going on in your life, fix it by setting aside a dinner date or get together at least once a month. This way you can catch up about what's going on in your life as a couple, and share it with your family. If you live together, it's a little difficult to limit it to once a month, so eat in with your parents at least once a week. When you're spending time with them often, it'll keep them from feeling like they need to snoop around to see what's going on in your love life.
Be careful not to over-share
We know there's times when your guy pisses you off and you run to mom to vent. But be careful, because people-especially family-will hold this against him. You don't want to talk to your family about only the negative things in your relationship. Talk to them about the great things too. Your family won't understand that there are ups and down to any relationship when it comes to you because the last thing they want is to see you upset. Trust this, the next time mom sees your boyfriend, you don't want that awkward feeling of her giving him the eye for being a "douche."
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Lay down the law
From the moment you notice that mom keeps inserting her unwarranted opinion, tell her how you feel. Let her know, nicely, that you appreciate her feedback but that you and your guy plan to discuss the issue on your own. If you allow anyone to constantly give their opinion, they will certainly take advantage. It's also dangerous because your family can really get to you. Sometimes when a person tells you their opinion so much, you can begin to think twice about something you otherwise would've never really cared about and it can come between your relationship.
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Be mindful of your partner's relationship with them
If you've got a cousin or a big bro that your boyfriend is particularly close to, let him know the boundaries too. Be careful that your boyfriend doesn't discuss your private lives too much with his new best bud, because when sh*t hits the fan, your family will probably end up finding out about the smallest detail you never wanted anyone to know about (maybe like about that time you got frisky in your aunt's bed or something). There's goes the gossip of the century: she's dating that dirty man!! Remember, things that go on in private are always meant to STAY private.
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