No Ring, No Problem.
Posted by Demetri Raftopoulos for BounceBack.com
It's truly difficult to picture life without a certain someone. The time you have spent with that person can overshadow anything; making it an impossible task to envision what it would be like if one day they were gone. But life never stands still. It always goes on. Relationships don't always work out, people leave, and life unfortunately needs to continue without that one person you thought you couldn't live without.
Relationships can be strange. You can spend so much time caring about someone, months on end, and one day you can wake up and those feelings could merely be a distant memory. What seemed like forever transformed into temporary. What seemed like love disappeared into the unknown.
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Letting someone into your life is very difficult. It is difficult because when you let someone into your life, there is a possibility you may get hurt. When you let someone into your life for the first time, building a true relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend status and all, and it doesn't work out, it definitely sucks. It definitely sucks but it isn't the end of the world. If your first real relationship doesn't work out, life goes on.
The most important thing one can take from a good, ephemeral relationship is the experience itself. After what seems to be a lifetime of bad so-called relationships, it is important to appreciate a good relationship in which your partner treated you with respect, regardless of how it ended.
Despite the fact that almost everything eventually ends, we will always find a way to create our new beginnings. In doing so, we will take everything that was good from our first relationship and use it to build confidence and ultimately establish another positive experience. Being treated well in a relationship can also give you hope that one day someone else will treat you that same way. There are other great individuals out there that can easily make you feel that way again.
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If your first real relationship was one easily forgettable, you can still also learn from it tremendously. Instead of taking the positive, you'll learn from the negative and avoid making the same mistakes. Life is a process and so are relationships. You may try spinach for the first time and not like it. But the next time you try spinach, it may be cooked differently and your taste buds will accept it, and like it, maybe even love it. (not reject it. )
Understandably, a bad first relationship can also lead a person to bury themselves in a hole so deep, covered in dirt, incapable of trusting again. Well if you thought he or she was the one, they obviously weren't if it didn't work out. Stop holding on to what was and realize what is.If you thought they were going to give you a ring, a white wedding and the whole nine yards, there is probably an evident reason for why it didn't happen.
The next time you meet someone and they revitalize that feeling you once obtained, butterflies in stomach, you will quickly forget the heartbreak and anguish you once felt. Realizing your capability and potential is paramount as well. You can move on and you will.
Relationships don't always work out. But there is a reason why we wake up in the morning; to start a new day. One day ends and another begins. It could be a day filled with enjoyment but after the twenty-fourth hour, it will end. The same applies for relationships. Just because one good relationship ended doesn't mean another one cannot be born. Like the sun rising, a new day will begin.
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