By Caitlin Goldberg, Bounceback Editorial Staff
I saw a quote the other day that said, "The art of living is in the fine balance of letting go and holding on." This couldn't ring more true to a relationship breakup. Finding the balance between letting go of what is broken while retaining the important lessons learned is crucial to bouncing back from a divorce or breakup.
First, letting go of what is broken means acknowledging that someone you once loved needs to be released from your heart, mind and spirit. They are no longer in your life and the sooner you release them and stop wasting your precious mental energy on your ex, the sooner you will bounce back!
Second, hold on to the lessons you learned from the relationship so that you will know what you want in the future. Even though "look on the bright side" can be a quite annoying response to your broken heart, you should always try. Try to find the bright spot in your relationship breakup or divorce and learn from both the positive and negative sides. Remember the good times, while being thankful that you are now free from a broken relationship to move on with your life.
After a breakup, your emotions are literally out of whack. You may feel suddenly happy and then suddenly depressed…embrace the inner turbulence you are feeling, it's telling you something new and exciting is on the way. You have to tie up your own loose ends by accepting your life as it now is. Go forward knowing that you have let go of the breakup, but you have taken in valuable lessons that can only make you wiser for the next time.