Do You Need a Maid of Honor?

Photo: Adrienne Gunde Lisa Birnbach, BRIDES

We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to weigh in on what to do when you have too many BFFs.

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"I love my three bridesmaids-do I have to pick a maid of honor? How would I explain that without upsetting the other two? Would the lack of hierarchy mean that no one would feel obligated to plan my bachelorette party? I want them to to work together and be able to save money." -Karen D. of Sacramento, Calif., via email

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Dear Karen,

What a good problem to have! No, you do not have to choose a favorite amongst your besties. I can't think of a single reason they would be upset; the contrary should be true. But lest you think I'm all Pollyanna, I blame reality TV for amping up the competition in relationships. No one will get voted off your island; no one will be sent home without a rose. Tell your BFFs exactly what you've told us, and enjoy yourselves.


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