Making it Work

You know what I mean? No "guys" not a car, ladies are you with me? I mean making a relationship work. A real grown up relationship. What are the commitments that we are really making? How do we keep the love alive but still manage to get rid of the "clingy-ness". I have answers for you, and some questions for those of you out there as well.

Okay, so if your willing to keep working hard at the relationship your in now, why let that die. I mean you've come so far already why not get back into the groove of things. Simple enough? WRONG its twice as hard when you've been in a long term relationship and all they say is "you should know me by now", which on their case your other half is right, but in all reality do we really know.. Over time things change and the relationship becomes dull. All in all we are still learning everyday with relationships whether were 18,19,20 and so on. Everyday should be treated as a learning experience.

The commitments we make a long the way don't involve losing the love and the passion. The commitments are to build a more strong relationships. These commitments are and or could be, 1) being loyal also known as being faithful, 2) surrendering all your love , 3) TRUST, and 4) your promise to be there. These things all essentially lead to marriage or taking the "NEXT" step in whatever part of the relationship your in. Don't expect that your partner knows ALL the answers because in all reality most times they're waiting for you to give them your opinion on the matters.

ONE, Being faithful are the hardest things to do for some, for other's its a piece of cake. I know what your thinking how are YOU supposed to stop them from cheating right? Well sadly, you can't. If they cannot appreciate you and all you are and what you do. Then honestly maybe their not worth your heart and mind. Find someone who can appreciate you, and trust me those kind of people are out there just waiting for you to come along as well.

TWO. Now, now guys that doesn't mean throw all that love on them at once. That means sticking to them, devoting your spare time and whatever energy you want to them. Giving you chances to grow a stronger love bond. Trust me when I say it doesn't just happen over night and sometimes it takes more time than others but in the end its your decision whether or not to keep them around.

Now for numbers 3 and 4. Let me just leave you with this without trust there is NO relationship and your PROMISE is ultimately that you will be there to be their rock, their support. If you are missing these things use activities to build. Such as picnic dates, dinners, vacations, writing down how you really feel on paper. Those are just somethings you could do.As for me I got bags for me to pack, because today im going on a trip.
And always remember you can NEVER have to much quality time! (;