Male Brains Aren't Designed To Listen to Female Voices

Huh? No really I wasn't looking at your chest!

Did you hear yourself in your article?
“This weekend when I was going on and on to a male friend about something I can't even remember anymore.”
If you can’t remember it was not important.

Men get frustrated because they want to help women fix/solve their problem(s) but women will never take it. Do you realize a man’s function is to solve each other’s problems. Women express their concerns (in more words than men) to deal with issues and never want any advice. Many men have tuned out women because of this.It goes both ways because we both think we have something of value to say but most of the time it only matters to ourselves.

You are correct to speak slowly and please get to the point. Remember to have a sense of humor about this. Take a look at the youtube videos of %#@$ people say!

it's because it's always the same BS over and over. who want's to listen to BS?

There is only ONE woman I "tune out" when she speaks-my wife. It's not because I "can't" 'hear her or that I "can't" process fast enough what she's saying. It's because 90% of the time she's talking AT me and not "to" or "with" me. I deliberately tune her out when she does that and I pick up on the important words. It's a terrible habit that fortunately, my daughters haven't picked up.

i think its selective hearing too. I have a guy friend who listens to every word we say and retains it in his brain - very detail oriented. it is actually us, women, who don't remember what we talk about.

I also have a guy friend who often pretends to listen to women, when actually, he doesn't.. hahaha! :))

I don't think this has something to do with the music part of a man's brain. I get to tune everything out if i do not like the topic or if i find the person uninteresting (which i tend to do sometimes).

If you really want to get anyone's attention, try to say something sensible. Jokes are fun and amusing but it doesn't have to be in every conversation. be quiet and eager to listen. once people notice that, they will actually be mystified and intrigued in what you never say or whatever you say.

if you can't remember what you were saying, why on earth should he ?! this faster functioning brain stuff is garbage. men simply tune out babbling.

Just half-smile, nod every once in awhile, and then agree with whatever she says. Then maybe she'll sleep with you. Probably not though.

My wife and I taught our daughter at an early age to NOT talk about herself and her problems with others. We taught her that if you want to make friends, ask people you meet questions and get them to talk then listen so you will know what the next question you will ask will be.

Instead, we taught her to ask questions that would get other people to talk about themselves and use her questions to control the conversation.

Learning how to control the conversation by asking questions about others has led to our daughter having more friends than anyone I know. She just finished her first year at Stanford and as we were packing her up to move her home for the summer, she walked across campus to say good bye to a few of those friends and kept running into one person after another that we could see was really happy to see her.

She learned that when you show interest in others, they really appreciate that.

lol at kathy.

First she accuses Tasha of being ignorant: "Ignorance is ignorance."

Then she says,

"God made you of the same mode that He made the rest of us..."

The irony is delicious.

That's so dumb. Men are perfectly capable of listening to women. Some do; some don't, but having a penis doesn't automatically mean you have ADD when women talk to you. My husband listens to me sometimes, and other times, he zones out. I'm the same way with him. Maybe the guy you were talking to was just tired or maybe what you said wasn't interesting to him. It happens to everybody, not just men.

After 25 years, I can't hear anything my wife says. LOL.

Women need to learn to speak in a lower - less shrill - voice, put some robust tone into it. As soon as those shrill women start reading the news it's off to someone else. Lynn Russell at CNN had a good voice. Please, don't tell my wife any of the above.

There is an exception to this though: I most definitely hear it when a woman says my name. Maybe women should stop calling their men by pet names...

Why do we care???? I have read many of these stories on this site and it seems to me that we put to much into what makes a man happy and how to satisfy him!!!! Make yourself happy!!!!!

There's also another reason: when people lose their hearing (most today have about a 5% hearing loss) they lose it in precisely the frequency range that women talk in (about 350-1000 cyces) and not in the range that men speak in (aboutt 75-350)

Sometimes hearing women chatter among each other or even speaking directly to me is just like "music" to my ears because the tones of their voices are usually very pleasant and soothing in a way that other men's voices are not. It has nothing at all to do with considering women's voices "background noise."

Having said that, I think Mary summed it up pretty well that the speaker-whether female OR male- has a responsibility (as should be taught in the childhood or teenage years) to consider the audience when speaking, remove distractions as much as is practicable for the situation and ensure that the listener is actually engaged in the conversation. It's a natural extension of making eye-contact with a person you're speaking with and pausing to allow the person to respond.

There was a time when this was considered common sense and just normal social behavior and not something it takes a social columnist's expository of a "study" to tell us.

Hunh?what?Yeah I have beer thanks Hon.

Kinda like I quit listening when men talk about cars, sports, or work.....Which is pretty much all men talk about.

I must have a male brain because i tune out when women talk about things over and over, and when some men talk nonsense too.

yeah i still think its just "selective hearing" lol