Should the Man in a Relationship Love the Woman More? Most People Say Yes

there is no even poet, a scientist nor even someone professional who could measure love. Isn't it awkward giving yourself a limitation when it comes to loving? As far as love is concern, with regards to the contradictory part, you love because you wanted to show off how much you feel towards an individual. You don't love because you wanted to be loved back the other way around.

The person who loves less in the relationship holds more power because they have less to lose. Shine focuses on women. Therefore Shine suggests ways to give women power in relationships. It all adds together correctly.

Which should hold more power in the relationship? Given that a couple should be near parity, the extra power should be held by the one in the mirror whichever gender. pretty simple how that works. Give more love anyways because our lives are defined by the love we give not by the love we receive.

This is the dumbest thing I have heard in a while. "If a man senses he loves a woman more than she loves him, he'll constantly feel the need to pursue this woman (as opposed to chasing another woman)."

LOL,Wrong! At least with me. If I sense a woman doesn't love me as much as I love her, I walk. End of story. There is no pursuing.

Another dumb shine article.

I think the article is correct. A woman needs love, a man needs respect.

Ten years ago I would have called this advice crap, but the older I get the more I think this is true.

This article is basically describing the "principle of least interest." The person who is least interested in staying in the relationship has more power. So, if women choose men that love them more, then these men are likely to be more vested in the relationship and even give up some of their power in order to maintain it. There are limitations to this concept because when it comes to love, humans can be irrational and unpredictable.

lol, I wonder how whoever came up with this poll decide how to measure love? =P
Is there a magic "love scale" somewhere?

Guys never seem to win. If they love too much, they're either called psycho (stalkers) or p***y whipped. If they don't, they're called dogs. I love my fiance just as much as he loves me. Hello, McFly! It's called a partnership -72% of people polled.....

Of course, if this poll is to be trusted, this shows what people really think of what relationships should be, and that's scary.

If you're crunching emotional numbers to see who loves whom more, you're already in trouble.

I can see why people reject this idea, because the amount or type of love one spouse has for another isn't really quantifiable. But biologically, the argument makes some sense.
Humans have never been proven to be biologically monogamous. In fact, our closest animal relatives (bonobos and chimpanzees) are not monogamous at all. Now, this doesn't mean that we aren't biologically monogamous, it just means that it's never been proven. Nevertheless, many in the scientific community believe that humans choose to be monogamous but aren't naturally/biologically so, in the way that some other animals are (like swans, etc.).

Assuming they are right that we are not biologically monogamous and that monogamy is a choice we make, it makes sense that the relationship works better if the male "loves" the female a bit more. Non-monogamous female mammals are much more selective in mating than non-monogamous male mammals. Females don't have the instinctual drive to spread their genetic material all over and aren't capable of creating nearly as many offspring as males can. So for monogamy to work in a mammal that is not biologically monogamous, the male must be satisfied and attracted enough to the female to overcome the urge to spread his genetic material, whereas the female does not (because she doesn't have those urges... or at least not as strongly). Thus, if "love" means attraction, desire, and satisfaction, then the argument makes sense from a biological standpoint. But of course, again, this all depends on the assumption that humans are not naturally monogamous, which is debatable.

Based on this statement, my man love me 7598987537575000000003566 times more than I love him. He is the most loyal and faithful man I had ever encountered.

One may give a tad more than the other, but there should be a balance of care and giving from both partners.

where do they get all their studies...guys cheated because they're made that way but if they are committed to their relationship, they will not cheat.

Polling women on a site aimed at predatory insecurity marketing and pseudo-empowerment about this topic is like polling a bunch of guys on a porn site with a topic like..."Women should put out more". What % of this supposed 72% feel they are under appreciated, ask this same questions to the guys on the porn poll survey.

And yet we have all these women/girls with bad boy complexes and a lot of guys with hairy palms. Silly Shine...Logic is for adults.

This is pure garbage and follows an old 1950s stereotype of gender definitions "Man go to work...provide for family...woman cook, clean, have babies, and be quiet"... YAWN... A good relationship is 50/50!! yes it may wane to 60/40 one way or another periodically but should even out to 50/50 otherwise someone is getting screwed and not in a good way. Guys need to work on, and be committed to their relationship (like a Man!! Not chasing other women like a kid ((or d0uchebag if you prefer)) and ladies for God sakes the more you take control of what you want in your life (finances or communicate and compromise financial expectations (if a stay at home parent), planning activities for your partner etc.) the more you take control of what you want rather than being controlled or getting angry (passive aggressively usually) that your man can't read your mind (aren't getting what you want)...and who wants stability over passion (at least some of the time)?? Sheesh what crap.

And exactly how does one tell if he loves her more on a consistent basis, is there a test? And let's say he did for illustrative purposes, there is no guarantee that will last once your together. Who would pursue a woman who he knows loves him less? Unless he is out for sex as a primary goal then it wouldn't matter.

But let's go with the author's assertion this is correct based on biological roles as she is advocating and he is a "chaser" and that would spur him to keep pursuing only her. Once he has her, that chasing dynamic isn't going to go away or be necessarily limited to just her. Isn't the biological assertion also that he wants to "spread his seed" (the coolege effect) with as many women as possible also be part of that equation? Seems grandma's logic left that part out.

Maybe some women chose stability over passion, but not me, and it worked out great in the end, I got the stability too. I could never pretend to love him less in some sort of game playing or get rid of him so I could have the 'upper hand' over some other guy. Passionate love when you feel it, is special, and can't be controlled.. I am still crazy in love with him after four years of marriage and it works out great for us....

People say that because people are stupid. The study basically proved that 72% of the population is stupid.

The reason for the "men should love the woman more" nonsense is because some people are still tied up in archaic sexist gender norms where men marry for love and women marry for things that are not love.

So yes, if women want it, they are free to do it. I feel bad for their husbands, but what can you do. It's their bad luck to be in love with a woman who doesn't love them.

there are women who read, listen, and believe this #$%$ and then relationships become a game. It never ends