men who kegel
Regular kegel exercises are a way to bond with your penis - and who couldn't benefit from more QT with his johnson? The more adept you become at isolating these muscles (and flexing them at will), the more aware you'll be of what's going on right before and during orgasm (beyond the usual "holy crap, that feels good!"). You'll also have more control over your number one guy. Of course, by "control" we mean that while he'll always be in the driver's seat, he might actually listen to your directions every now and then.
Targeting the Muscle Group
What works for the chicks works for the d*cks: next time you're on a tinkle break, stop the flow of pee for a few seconds. (Or, if you've got a good imagination, pretend you're holding it right now.) Feel those internal muscles you're contracting? Good - those are your pelvic muscles. Just make sure that you're not tensing your butt or abs at the same time. Once you know where those muscles live, don't be literally stopping the flow of pee anymore - all that holding back just isn't good for you.
Your Work-Out Program
It's just like the ladies' program: Squeeze, hold, release. Repeat. And repeat.
If you've never kegled before, start slow. First, make sure your bladder is empty. Then, squeeze the pelvic muscles, hold for two or three seconds, and release. Do it again, four or five more times. Repeat three times daily. (If it ever starts to hurt, back off and build up more slowly, as you would with any work-out.) When that starts to feel like a cinch, up your reps and the count you hold for: Increase both gradually until you can hold the squeeze for about ten seconds, ten to twenty times in a row. Do that three times daily. Combine those long, loving squeezes with short, rapid-fire kegel bursts - three or four quickie clenches at the end of each long one. You can even try bearing down, though it probably won't come as naturally to you as it does to the ladies.
And just like in yoga class, work on keeping your breathing in sync with your squeezing: Try inhaling as you contract, holding your breath while you hold the muscles, and exhaling as you relax. Or inhale one deep breath while you punch out the quickies. Maintain this exercise schedule for six weeks, and you should start to notice the difference in the bedroom (even if it's just you and your left hand in that bedroom).
When to Flex
Next time you're inside your partner, hold reeeallly still and try a little twitching action. See what she or he says. Or try squeezing your muscles right before, or right as, you climax. Experiment while you're flogging the bishop to see what flexing does for you and your orgasm.
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