Women share the five things that drive them crazy about the men in their lives.
- April Daniels Hussar, BettyConfidential.comAh, boys. How we love them. And how they can drive us … crazy! A while ago we ran an article on what guys find most annoying about us womenfolk (Who us? Hard to believe!) - so it's only fair that we cover the other side of the coin, don't you agree?
But first, let me paint you a little picture.
It's a dark and stormy morning. The lights in my house are on, providing a cozy glow and, handily, helping us to see our food. Breakfast has ended, and my husband heads upstairs to his home office, remembering, as always, to turn the lights off as he leaves. Isn't that nice?
No, actually it's not … because I'm still sitting at the table!
Which brings us to our first complaint:
1. Over-zealous light turning-off.
I thought this was something only I had to suffer, but my writer friend Jenna, 40, assures me it is not.
"My husband calls me 'Light-Leaver-Onner' and subsequently walks around shutting off lights, including in rooms I am in. I'll be using the toilet and he'll walk by, open the door and turn off the light."
But is this a green thing? A money thing? Who knows, but it seems to me that these guys are all taking An Inconvenient Truth just a little too far…
Case in point: My husband's favorite line, whenever he discovers I've (yet again) left the light on in the basement laundry room, "Mother Earth is crying."
2. Leaving wet towels on the bed.
A gal we'll call Penny, 36, tells me with a sigh, "I had an ex-fiancé who always, and I mean always left wet towels in the middle of the bed. He'd take a shower, walk into the bedroom, drop the towel in the middle of the bed, get dressed and leave. The wet towel would sit there all day long. Ick."
Ick indeed. But why? Are beds and towel racks so similarly shaped that guys get confused? And let me just point out that she says ex-fiancé.
OK, some guys at least make an effort to put their things away…but when it comes right down to it, good intentions alone aren't quite enough.
After reading our article on the annoying things women do, one commenter, "Bandijacks", shared her pet peeve about guys: "The most annoying thing for me is when they almost put something away, but not quite. Like putting the dirty dishes beside the sink rather than inside, or putting dirty clothes on top of the hamper rather than opening it and putting them inside. Grrr."
Come on guys, you're so close. Close, but no cigar!3. Turning into big babies when they get sick.
Sound the alarms! Call the Red Cross! Baby has a …sniffle!
If you've even been called into a living room filled with empty mugs coated with Theraflu and used Kleenex, a mound of misery lying woefully on the couch, and been asked to hand a certain someone the remote so he doesn't have to strain himself reaching to the coffee table … then you know what I'm talking about.
Claudia, 30, says, "It's like one sniffle must be the plague and no one has ever, ever felt as bad as they do."
"Of course," she wisely points out, "the worst part is, you can't really complain about it because you just come across as mean and unsympathetic."
True. Better to play sympathetic nursemaid/slave for a few days so you can cash your chips in next time you need a late-night Ben & Jerry's run, if you know what I mean.
4. Not giving good phone.
Alissa, 22, has been dating her guy for two years. Her number one complaint? "He's so bad on the phone! We're talking zero enthusiasm, very quiet, and I'm the one who always needs to keep the conversation going."
You might think it has something to do with his personality. You might be wrong. "He's completely different in person -- very lively, funny, and talkative," says Alissa.
What's a girl to do? "I've asked him many times to improve his phone skills, but nothing seems to work," she says. "So now, I just talk and talk and talk until I want to hang up, and he just has to sit there and listen!"
5. Leaving a trail of ______ around the house.
It's as if some guys never quite got over the lessons they learned from Hansel and Gretel, right? Wherever they go, they must leave little markers, for fear of not being able to find their ways back to … the kitchen?
Jenna, the "Light-Leaver-Onner," has this one bad: "My husband likes to eat cheese slices at night, and I'll find the little wax papers everywhere the next morning - in his pockets, on the coffee table, tucked between the damned couch cushions."
Well, at least they don't still have cheese in them.
And Christie, 21, always knows where her boyfriend's been by his trail of dirty socks. "I find those things everywhere! On the bedroom floor, on the couch, under his kitchen chair, you name it."
Of course, despite these pesky little habits, we love our guys anyway. All these little things add up to just that - little things.
But it's kind of fun to b---- a little, amongst friends, isn't it? Come on, dish it up: What's your guy's most annoying habit?
April Daniels Hussar is BettyConfidential's Deputy Editor.
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