Say Hello to a Single Spring!
By Penny Paige for BounceBack.com
The vernal equinox has recently passed and we all know what that means - SPRING has sprung! Look around you - the flowers are in bloom, the leaves on the trees are budding, the days are getting longer, and all of the colors make you feel alive again!
For some, spring may not signify a pocketful of sunshine. Maybe you've had a recent relationship change and you're not exactly "Little Miss Sunshine". Instead of embracing the new season you may feel like walking around clad in black (with those pair of extra sharp scissors your mother wouldn't let you use as a kid) to cut all the new blossoming flowers from their stems because they look a little too cheery. Maybe you wish you could personally wipe that annoying "I-don't-have-a-care-in-the-world-because-I'm-in-love" smile off of all the faces around you.
That's ok - I've been there, we've ALL been there. However, we're going to get through this season without stealing anyone else's sunshine by embracing our new "singledom" and embracing spring. Want to know how? Go grab a pen and pad so you can take notes!
One: Enjoy the Warm Weather
Hibernation season is over! Sure, those colder months were great for perfecting your couch potato skills and getting your money's worth for Netflix, but spring is here. With it comes warmer weather and new opportunities to socialize more with the other bears (I mean humans) coming out of hibernation. Restaurants open up their doors and sidewalks to encourage patrons to soak up the sun and enjoy dining outside. Lounges sweep up the cobwebs and open up their and rooftops to welcome all happy hour-goers so they can enjoy their favorite cocktail under the dim moonlight as they breathe in the fresh air. Lastly, a lot of clubs, bars, and lounges welcome the season in with spring-themed parties geared towards the party-goers who need a little assistance shaking the chill off of winter and getting into the springtime groove.
Two: Shed That Bulky, Winter Clothing
Throw the furs in the vault. Put all your comfortable, over-sized sweaters in a big plastic bin along with your scarves, wool hats, and gloves. Put away the thermals and clunky boots and get ready to show more of your personality with fashion. Everywhere you look you'll find the latest trends - including bold colors (on just about anything from window shades to nail polish), color blocking (this pays homage to the mod era and is widely seen on dresses and shirts), funky floral prints (on pants, bags, dresses), ethnic prints (Aztec & African prints) and my personal favorite, animal prints - leopard and zebra anything are must haves this season. If these fashions catch your eye in the store, imagine whose eye you might catch wearing them!
Three: Take More Time to Yourself
"Me time" - that's my favorite time on my watch! Who doesn't get enough of it? We often forget about "me" when we're involved in a relationship. "I" becomes "us" and "me time" seems to get lost in the same area of the dryer that kidnaps a sock. Being newly single during a season synonymous with new beginnings is perfect for you right now because you can start something fresh. I recommend using this new found time to get healthier (inside and out); start a workout regimen (jogging/running or anything cardio friendly). Cardio makes you feel wonderful afterwards because you have that "runner's high". Maybe you can start eliminating certain foods from your diet so you can feel lighter (i.e. - fried foods, fast foods, foods high in calories, etc.). If working out is not your thing, how about starting a new hobby? Try something that you were too busy in a relationship to do before - knitting/crocheting, sewing, jewelry making, painting, sculpting - it's totally up to you!
Four: Be Adventurous!
The thrill may have temporarily left with your ex, but that doesn't mean that you can't get it back. New adventures are all around you. Try partaking in things you swore you'd never do - after all, this is the season of change! Nothing screams adventure more than a Trapeze class - swinging by your knees and trusting a complete stranger to catch you (so you don't fall to the safety net beneath you) sounds like the epitome of fun! Take a step outside of your comfort zone and learn how to mix up some new cocktails in a bar tending class. You learn a new trade, you can earn a few extra bucks on the side, and you will be surrounded by people with a similar interests, leading to new friendships and new experiences! Lastly, for the sexy at heart, try Pole Dancing classes - this is adventurous to the max and can only bring great joy to all that partake; more body awareness, a boost in your confidence, and new tricks to practice for when you do meet a new love interest - wink, wink!
Five: Perk Up Your Place With Spring Cleaning/Decorating
Get up. Go get about two or three garbage bags because it's time to either throw away or put away the painful memories (pictures, his/her favorite shirt, etc.) he/she left at your place. Ahhhhh, didn't that feel good, almost therapeutic? There's something about a clean environment that instantly perks your spirit. Now that you've done that, why not try getting your "inner designer" on and redecorating your space? Redecoration can mean rejuvenation. Paint your room a different vibrant color, buy some new curtains, purchase a new bed spread in bright color (coral, turquoise, green, etc), or buy something as simple as new decorative pillow. This could be just what you need to start embracing spring!
If you thought you weren't ready for a new beginning, you now have 5 reasons to start embracing spring and your newly single status today. Get out there; embrace this season, because it will embrace you back!
How are you embracing spring and being single?
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Penny Paige is a native New Yorker who currently resides in the burbs of Queens. She is lover of music & dancing, summertime in NYC, lives for traveling, is a die-hard hopeless romantic, and loves to try new cuisine at the drop of a dime.