Is it Okay to Have a Maid and Matron of Honor?

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by Lisa Birnbach, Brides

We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity-and your friendships-intact.

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Is it okay to have a maid and matron of honor? Would they need to have different gowns from the bridesmaids and/or each other? -Breanna S. of Pelham, N.Y.

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Dear Breanna,

I was a maid of honor for my college roommate, and her older, married sister was her matron of honor. I was extremely honored by her designation. We wore matching dresses, identical to the other bridesmaids', and that was-and is-perfectly fine. Your idea will make both ladies feel important-and they can share responsibility for planning your bachelorette party. Win-win!