Online Dating Horror Storytime: 8 Red Flags to Look Out For

Well, i knew this guy from FB and we decided to meet. We were supposed to go for a nice dinner and a movie afterwards. So he said he would pick me up at my house at 7pm but came an hour late. *I was soooo furious!* The movie was supposed to start at 9pm and he said we wouldn't have time for the "nice" dinner. So we had McDs in the car. *stupid guy* Later, he told me the reason he was late - because he had to go to the police station to give some statements due to his ex-gf making a report to the police that he has been causing her "emotional grievance". I got the shock of my life - I was going out with a stalker!! We proceeded to watch the movie and then went home. The whole time wishing that it would end fast. I couldn't let him touch me, put my hands in my pocket the whole time or kept them folded and needless to say I never talked to him ever again. But of course, I had the courtesy to tell him that he needs to work on his issues first and that I'm gona disappear now. I deleted and blocked him from my FB too. Worst date of my life!

If a woman wears a bulky patterned sweater in the summertime for the first date, does that count as a bad first date? It definitely left a bad impression on me.

Online dating,the new age thing.With an economy that sucks,the gross cost of gas,it is a viable alternative in todays world.
My last encounter,which did not last as long as our internet communication,was simply just a sad experience.
to be truthful with someone,just to have it used to her advantage.I mean how could go from wanting a stable home invirement,to being an adventurous traveling biker??Anyhow just another one of lifes learning experience.Knowing when not to start,and when it is over it really is,and no emotional drama is going to do anything to change that.
There lots of scammers,and those looking for a saftey net guy.There also some who are sincere with thier intentions.
If there is an actual real connection,build from there.In any serious relationship intimacy is a factor.So face that reality like an intelligent person,not like some game to play.

Okay, this guy most likely was a jerk, but the woman here doesn't sound much better. She overlooked his rude comments about fat women, overlooked his his 'complaint' that women want to have sex with him on the first date, but stood him up when she saw his car was a clunker? If he'd showed up in an in a new BMW would his other red flags been forgiven? I can't wait for her to meet a successful businessman in a nice car that takes one look at her and says "Your profile said 115 pounds, I'm outta here...."

Well that was retarded.. i thought this article would like help people with real problems but this chick just seems like a shallow self centered gold digger to me

Truth is much less attractive than fantasy/embellishment online, I guess. We say we want the truth...but dismiss or punish people for being truthful. I have dated unemployed men, and we have agreed to do something free/low cost. I am a single parent, and I was completely honest about that...I did not think it was fair to expect a man to take me to a 5 star restaurant just to meet me. In fact, men who have money or can spend that much, I found have a hidden agenda that usually equates to having sex with them that night or the near future. By keeping the financial pressure off, I have been able to meet some nice men, and some were custodial parents, too.
Picnics in a public place, coffee and dessert at a local restaurant are nicer than attempting fast food. Taking a tour of a public garden or zoo. I never go to bars on a first date and I never go to a man's home or let him come to mine; it just isn't safe.

Wow, if you are that shallow to run away from a clunker, then maybe it is best you shouldn't date. If he lies to you about money, its called a ploy. They want to see if you are in it for the love or the money. And you shouldn't date online :/ too many psychos out there.

Only someone seriously stupid wouldn't catch on to everything sooner. I once started talking to a guy I met online...talking as in texting because he always had a reason for not wanting to actually talk on the phone. After a little researching I found out he was married :P. Never ignore your gut if something seems off.

Also, "only losers" claim meeting someone online is for desperate people. Just because you tried it and still couldn't find anyone doesn't mean it's bad. Some of my best relationships have been with guys I met online. I'm almost 3months into a relationship with a guy I met online, and I wasn't even looking for a relationship.

A guy I met online a few years ago told me his dad was a CIA hitman...kind of creepy, especially on a second date. Decided that whether it was true or a lie, too scary either way!

Hey, I think I get more pleasure out of being alone than with vain, arrogant women...

First of all if you are worried about what people might see on your Facebook and you have concerns that what they might see is too private, you probably shouldn't be posting it on Facebook in the first place. Keep your private life private and not posted all over your Facebook. Secondly, talking to people on the internet usually means that you should probably be getting out and sociallizing with people face to face a bit more.

Online dating is not for loosers sheesh. Im a single mom with two special needs kids. I dont have time to go out and troll bars bookstores etc to meet a man. Ive had a few online relationships the one Im in now has been going on for 10 years. All my bad date stories are from blind dates!! Im up front with men and tell em" Im a mom my kids come first if you can't handle that then nice meeting you." Of course they say they can handle it then cant'. Or they make lewd comments during dinner about every woman in the room no thanks!! Dating online saves me a lot of freakin headaches!!! That whole getting to know you stuff and what kinds of things do you like? I can do all that chatting online with somone. I couldnt care less about how much money somone makes and when I meet em in person if their pics dont match thats a red flag because they could be anyone.. but Ive never had that problem. Its all how you approach things =)

I'm sorry but I absolutely disagree with friending someone on Facebook before the first date. I would have serious privacy concerns. I'm not one of those people that friends everyone I've ever met since 3rd grade or the the guy that checked out my groceries at Trader Joe's. It's for friends only. You give him (or her) access to your Facebook page and you are giving them entry to some pretty private stuff.

My entire life is a horror story. I'm pretty sure Shakespeare wrote the first half, then handed it off to Edgar Allan Poe for the finishing touches.

i'm sorry but that's funny! he stalled in the middle of the street! and she ran off??!! LOLOLOL!!!

Online dating is for losers.

As someone who has had experience, you sometimes want to give someone the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes you really get along with them or meeting up for something like coffee isn't that bad.

My bad experiences included a guy who turned out to be racist, a guy who didn't bother to look at my stats and then made back handed comments about my height and age (both are listed and truthful) and a guy who was really cool as a friend, but had a lot of secrets that slowly poured out every time we talked. Usually I don't even bother meeting a person if I don't feel too comfortable talking to them.

Here's another one: Mutes his phone while you are talking. I was talking with one guy from an online site and he said he had a housemate, didn't say if man or woman. If he's muting the phone, I'm sure it's a woman, and she thinks she's more than a "housemate." He's just shopping around for sex, or maybe for the next gf while stringing her along. Either way, Mr. Wrong.

I agree with alesia. It's a shame when you have to hide behind a screen in order to meet people.

Sounds as if he has some problems with addiction if that is priority rather than a descent date experience. Lying is not good. Glad I don't do much dating but that is so sad. I had a guy I dated online a few years ago. He posted having a great job as evaluating the landscape or something. Turns out he was a waiter and it was his dream job to evaluate the landscape. Also caught him lying about his age and confronted him on it. Inconsistencies is not good. Listen well when you are dating and clarify if you do not know for sure. He better have a job and goals in life otherwise let him carry on in life without you. Had some guys with no jobs that wanted to date. You got no jobs or cannot hold one for long something is not good. Just be careful who you let get close to you. If you see red flags or something is not matching up call them on it. If you need to call it quits let them know that it is not a good fit.